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This week we are talking all about what it looks like to love a friend that is grieving the loss of a baby. For this interview I get to chat with two friends, Anna and Anna. I thought it would be helpful to not only get the perspective of a mom who has experienced loss but also of her friend -- to have the conversation with them both at the same time about what it looked like to love a grieving friend amidst grief as well as what it looks like to be the grieving friend receiving the support.
Both women have experienced loss, between them they have experienced two pregnancy losses and one infant loss -- so their perspective is unique and full of empathy and tenderness. We talked about the biggest challenges facing relationships when one person is grieving, we talked about what it looks like practically to step into the mess that is friendship and grief, we talk about the value of checking in again and again and again, we talk about helpful things to say and do as well as things that are not so helpful and words that might be hurtful.
And if you are listening as someone who says “but I feel forgotten by my friends and family.” or “that’s great for them but i don’t have a friend like that who cares like that”, keep listening because we address that too.
This episode is so encouraging as it reminds us that it is the simplest efforts like a call or a text or a mug full of hershey kisses matter so much. That loving someone who is hurting does not have to look like grand gestures but rather an imperfect showing up that is consistent and prayerful and thoughtful has the potential to bring so much comfort to a grieving mom.
I pray this episode encourages you to step into the messiness of friendship after loss as it reminds you that it is absolutely worth it.
FREE RESOURCE FOR HOW TO LOVE A GRIEVING FRIEND
If you love a grieving mom, check out episode #94 (www.themorning.com/blog/episode106) about how to love a grieving friend, it’s a simple list of 10 don’t do this instead do this.
To download a free simple checklist about how to love a grieving friend head to www.themorning.com/friendsandfamily.
FREE ONLINE COMMUNITY
If you are a grieving mom, I want to invite you to join our free online community, The Joyful Mourning Community -- it’s a place where you can find women who have experienced the loss of a baby and are navigating this grief journey. It’s a safe place where you can ask hard questions, lament, ask for prayer, a place where you can find women who understand what you are going through and can remind you you aren’t alone. To join our community head to themorning.com/community. I can’t wait to see you there.