Love & Life is your place for conversations grounded in psych research, psychotherapy, and Biblical truth to help you THRIVE in love and life! Join psychologist Karin Anderson Abrell, Ph.D. and pastor and psychotherapist Elliott Anderson, M.A., as they focus on relationships and how to flourish therein with a holistic approach to emotional and psychological well-being, recognizing we only thrive when we nourish each of these key domains—Mind, Body, and Spirit. Together they bring over 60 yea ...
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I’m 49 and Looking for Love. Should I Bother with Dating Apps? Ep. 344
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15:37Question:What is the best way for a 49-year-old to meet a guy? In person or an app? Cuz it's rough out here!Answer:It’s a jungle out there. I should know. I spent 27 years on the dating scene. I get how frustrating it can be. 😫To address this question, I discuss some strategies that helped me when I was single—ones I talk about in my book, Single i…
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We Broke Up Due to Religion. Can We Still be Friends? L&L Q&A Ep. 343
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14:39Question: I met this guy when I was 18 and he was 19. Three years later, I’ve chosen to break it off after realizing that no matter what, my family won’t accept us as a couple. For context, I belong to an ethnoreligious group—marrying outside the faith is frowned upon, as we work to preserve our identity and heritage. He was raised Christian, but h…
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Help! I Regret Taking the Jab! Love & Life Q&A Ep. 342
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17:53We all felt the immense pressure to get the COVID vaccine. Many were forced to jab in order to keep their jobs. In some cities, we couldn’t eat in restaurants, buy a cup of coffee, or attend a concert unless we showed proof of vaccination. People rolled up their sleeves. Many regret it because they later learned the “vaccine”prevented neither infec…
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Love & Life LIVE - Part 2: 5 Love Languages & Attachment Styles! Ep. 341
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50:30Welcome to part 2 of Love & Life LIVE! Elliott and I recently spoke to his Personality Class at Judson University. In part 2 of our conversation, we take a deep dive into Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. We explore the importance of knowing how you and your partner like to give and receive love. Elliott adds his 2 cents with 2 additional love l…
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Love & Life LIVE - Part 1: The Personality of Love❣️Understand Yourself and Your Partner! Ep. 340
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58:09Welcome to a Love & Life Live! Elliott and I recently spoke to his Personality Class at Judson University and we wanted to share this evening with the Love & Life community. In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, we focused on the personality of love. Specifically, we delved into the following: What is true love? How do we know when we’re in it? How can…
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How to Handle Valentine’s Day When You’re Single—Or Wish You Were! Ep. 339
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44:04The Valentine’s season can be difficult if you’re single and you don’t want to be. We’re wired for intimacy and connection—it’s normal to feel a huge void when we’re waiting to meet our person. The season can also be rough for couples if your relationship is rocky. You’re supposed to feel all lovey-dovey, but at the moment, you really can’t stand y…
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Toxic Masculinity vs. Toxic Femininity Ep. 338
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38:08In today's episode, Dr. Karin and Pastor Elliott tackle a conversation they've been wanting to have for a long time: Toxic Masculinity vs. Toxic Femininity. We cover the following: - Defining both toxicities (including A.I.'s definitions...) - How do these traits present themselves in individuals and within our relationships? - How does nature vs. …
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Post Inauguration Thoughts: Can Friends Survive the Next Four Years? Ep. 337
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32:12Inauguration Day brings up myriad emotions—either excitement and hope for a bright future or, fear, anger, and disappointment. What happens when your dearest friends feel the exact opposite emotions? Tim and I sit down for a few minutes to discuss the inauguration and specifically, the Make America Healthy Again Inaugural Ball which Dan and I atten…
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Are You Truly Healing or Stuck in Endless “Recovery?” Ep. 336
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40:58“How long will I be in trauma recovery?” Whether we’re in therapy or working on our issues through self help books and podcasts, we often wonder, will I EVER truly heal from this wound? Elliott and I wanted to address this important concern—especially because Elliott recently received this exact question from a listener. Shortly thereafter, he stum…
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New Year, New Love—How to Fall for Someone GOOD for You! Ep. 335
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23:52A new year brings a fresh start—a chance to make changes and set goals! We wanted to kick off 2025 by talking about the importance of reflection in the midst of making resolutions and intentions for the new year. To do so, we’re answering a listener’s question. Question: So, I make horrible choices in men apparently, and I have finally met somebody…
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Messy Christmas: Broken Relationships During the Holidays Ep. 334
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29:59The holidays can be rough. Family dynamics can be complicated and messy. On today's special Christmas Eve episode we dive into a question Elliott received from a listener about how to deal with difficult family dynamics after a divorce that involves kids. We hope today's episode will give you a sense of support and encouragement during this holiday…
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What if You’re NOT Feeling Merry & Bright This Christmas? Ep. 333
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36:37Christmas time is here! We’re supposed to feel merry and bright! But, what if we don’t feel joyful at all? What if we’re pretty darn miserable? Maybe you’re grieving—it’s the first Christmas since your father passed away. Maybe you’re lonely—you’re staring down yet another round of holiday parties without a plus 1. Maybe you’re worried—your kid’s h…
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Criminalization of Masculinity: A Pastor’s Response to the Daniel Penny Trial Ep. 332
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21:30Another current event weaves its way into our series on masculinity . . . This week I heard Newsweek’s Batya Ungar-Sargon’s take on the Daniel Penny prosecution. She viewed it in a way I hadn’t considered. She framed the prosecution itself as an attack on masculinity. I wanted to hear Elliott’s thoughts as a pastor, husband, and father. Has our soc…
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Inconsiderate Conversations at Christmas - What Do I Do? Ep. 331
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38:24It’s the most wonderful time of year! And also, it’s a season full of intense emotions. We head out to parties to celebrate with friends and family. But, what if we don’t connect with our loved ones the way we used to? What if our family doesn’t understand who we’ve become? As the saying goes, “You always hurt the ones you love.” And, those we love…
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Why My Marriage Broke Down with Rachel Hui Ep. 330
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53:18On today's podcast we are joined by one of our listeners Rachel Hui who shares her personal story on how her marriage ended and the journey she's been on to find healing in the aftermath of divorce. We are so grateful for Rachel's courage and vulnerability to share her story and we hope it will inspire you. Sponsor: The Wellness Company Website: h…
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Does America Need Marital Therapy? Techniques from Couples Counseling to Heal Our Division Ep. 329
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37:47It struck him as he was working with his clients over the last several weeks. Americans are divided—much like couples in crisis are divided. We’re dysregulated from the trauma of an incredibly contentious election and thus, we’re now prone to slip into what Elliott calls the “3 A’s of Intimacy Destruction.” We Assume, Accuse, and Attack—just like s…
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Post Election Stress Disorder: Remaining Connected Despite the Division Ep. 328
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23:20The election is behind us, but the division remains. And, the demonstrations are just getting going. Movements like 4B and Blue Bracelets express rage at men and Trump voters in general. Women are swearing off sex, shaving off their hair, and wearing bracelets to signify to each other who is “safe” to be around. Can we possibly remain connected dur…
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Post Election Processing: Managing Your Emotions & Considering the Feelings of Others Ep. 327
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38:26With the election now behind us, Elliott and I wanted to share thoughts on how to navigate love and life post election—especially concerning our relationships. Because half the country is really happy with the results, while the other half feels angry, demoralized, and even afraid. Specifically, we consider: How do we build unity in the midst of so…
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Let’s Talk About It! The Misogyny of Progressives Ep. 326
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15:04On a day when many Progressives will go to the polls to vote for a “woman,” I’d like to share a few thoughts around the misogyny inherent to Leftists’ ideology. Their logic breaks down immediately as they can’t define what a woman is. So, how can they get excited about voting for a woman hoping she’ll be the first woman president? 🤷♀️ They’ve alre…
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Why I’m Voting for “Hitler”: A COVID Dissident’s Response Ep. 325
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22:15I know most people want to move on from COVID. And, maybe you’re ready to move on from the election. But, it’s all related—COVID, the election, and our platform of mind, body, & spirit. I have some thoughts. Plus, I’d like to explain why I’m voting for “literal Hitler” and his MAGA + MAHA team of courageous dissidents—RFK, Jr., Tulsi, and Elon. To …
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Gender Affirming Care for Children: Does it “Follow the Science?” with Psychiatric Nurse David Wayne Ep. 324
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45:48It’s such a heated issue—and people on each side believe those who disagree with them are abusing children. In the last 10 years, we’ve witnessed an exponential increase in the number of kids who feel as if they’re the wrong sex. Although Gender Dysphoria Disorder remains a psychiatric illness per the DSM-5-TR, it currently is viewed quite differen…
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Let's Talk About It: Wife Guys? Masculinity Gets Political Ep. 323
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16:58We’re in the midst of a series on masculinity, so I had to weigh in on this one, and I looped in Producer Tim to get a Millennial male’s take. You’ve probably seen the clip of Jen Psaki interviewing Kamala Harris’ husband, Doug Emhoff. Psaki claimed Emhoff has, “reshaped the perception of masculinity.” Really? Psaki then called him a “wife guy.” Ok…
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Faith & Politics: A Pastor’s Take on Voting Ep. 322
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41:45Elliott and I didn’t grow up with a lot of political discourse. Our family delved into a wide array of topics, but as educators and musicians, we tended to discuss chord charts and pop tunes more than public policy. In fact, as most of you know, our father was a lifelong Democrat and our mother is a lifelong Republican. Yet, they possessed the same…
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Pandemic of the Unvaccinated? New Data on COVID Hospitalizations with David Wayne Ep. 321
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43:34Psychiatric nurse and friend of the program, David Wayne, is back to discuss what he recently shared on Children’s Health Defense’s CHD.TV. In addition to nursing, Dave has a background in data analytics. Throughout the COVID era, he tried to make sense of the vaccinated vs. unvaccinated hospitalizations—the numbers weren’t adding up. Databases wer…
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Masculinity in the Midst of a Father Wound with Bradley Oberrieder Ep. 320
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50:06Growing up is tough. Growing up with a father wound is even tougher. As we continue our series on masculinity, we’re addressing the complexities of father wounds on sons. How do boys grow into men when their model for manhood has been abusive or absent? One of Elliott’s mentees, Bradley Oberrieder, joins us to share his journey—how his father aband…
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