253: Can you address erectile dysfunction with a science-based sex toy? Turns out yes. (ft. Dr. Soum of MysteryVibe)

Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women

Sex is part of life, and major life events affect our sex lives. Here are just a few things you might've wondered about in the course of your own sex life:

• How do I overcome erectile dysfunction without drugs? (like Viagra or Cialis)
• What do I do if she's less into sex than me? (a difference in libido, which sometimes involves an arousal disorder)
• My wife had a baby and now intercourse hurts. Are we ever going to have great sex again??
• What if my woman partner has dryness or pain during sex, especially post-menopause? How can I help?

Enter Dr. Soum, founder of science-based sex tech company MysteryVibe. "Childbirth, menopause, recovering from cancer or surgery — in all of these cases, your sex life is affected, and the mystery leaves the bedroom," he says.

But it can come back, people. As one happy couple in their 70s said of using one of their products, "We’ve been married for 30 years and we feel like we’re back in our honeymoon."

Look, the truth is that human bodies are both complicated and simple at the same time. A lot of women contend with anorgasmia, for example, which is just a big word for the inability to orgasm.

But this doesn't have to be a forever state of being. It's totally addressable, as is pain after childbirth. This is especially reassuring given that a whopping 86% of moms have pelvic/vaginal pain, and 50% still have it after 2 years.

None of this has to stay your reality. Pelvic floors are resilient, and so are people. Listen for some serious knowledge-dropping, and sweet inspiration.

Memorable quotes from this episode:

• "I love the intersection of humanness and electronics."
• "More and more people are talking about and working on menopause."
• "Orgasms improve your mental health."
• “In most cases, premium sex toys are bought by men for women.”
• "If you make intimacy the only goal, then bringing about change is very easy."

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To get your hands on the sex toys in question: mysteryvibe.com

The Women's Health article : This is the One Vibrator That Brought Back My Sex Drive While I Was Taking Antidepressants

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