256: How do you support her when she’s having a hard time (and also get your needs met)? (ft. Violet Lange)

Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women

When a woman is going through a tough time (especially for an extended period of time), it can be easy to fall into a codependent dynamic. When she relies heavily on you to help her feel better, this can be taxing on your nervous system. And nobody wants codependence!

How do you stay steady when things like financial stress, fertility issues, job concerns, or hard family dynamics cause a wife, girlfriend, or other woman partner to turn to you more than ever?

Here we talk about what it means to be emotionally regulated vs/ dysregulated, and concrete ways to feel better and manage stress in a healthy, generative fashion. We outline how a woman (or any dysregulated partner) can soothe herself, as well as strategies you can use to support her through a difficult time.

If you've ever felt unsure about how to soothe a woman partner or challenged by feeling the need to hold space repeatedly for something neither she nor you have control over (i.e. her getting laid off, or interacting with a frustrating/difficult relative, etc.), you'll appreciate this one.

Mentioned on this episode:

Trauma Release Exercises (TRE) (https://youtu.be/FeUioDuJjFI)

Network Spinal Analysis (https://tinyurl.com/3assne6v)

Violet's site: (https://violetlange.com/)

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