39 lessons in 39 years

The Fertility Warriors

I turned 39 in January! Truth be told I'm actually REALLY excited about entering this chapter in my life. I can honestly say I've learnt SO much more in my 30s than at many other times in my life - my infertility journey triggered this uncomfortable growth in me, that I can now also look back on with gratitude for the lessons it provided to me. Tune into this week's podcast where I share my biggest lessons over the last 39 years although below are the cliff notes. Enjoy! And reach out to me on Instagram to let me know what you think. •How you speak to yourself, is one of the important things you can control •Stop looking at what you want to achieve or do, and start thinking about how you want to feel •Most of the time, in the present moment, things are fine, safe and boring •You only live once •There is never a wrong decision •Stop caring so much about what your parents want and start thinking about what YOU want •Deep down inside, YOU know the answer •Money is a renewable resource, time is not •Never discount the lessons in the journey •The worst-case rarely ever happens. Neither does the best case. It's usually somewhere in the middle •Everyone deserves respect •Often, what triggers you (or what triggers someone else) is more about you and less about them •Perfection is a unicorn •Balance is BS •Do the scary things •Most things are change-your-mindable •Most things are figureoutable if you commit to navigating solutions •>> But you get to choose whether you want to take the shortcut •The 5 minute rule >> ask yourself - what do I need right now •Get a cleaner •You can control more things than you think •Everyone suffers •Expect obstacles •Being hopeful feels better than trying not to get your hopes up •Crying feels good •A hot (or cold) shower or a walk outside fixes most things •Get your mind right FIRST •Women do not exist on a 24-hour cycle •Sometimes the rest is the work •Sometimes it's not giving up, it's changing priorities •Life has seasons •Guilt is a motherf*cker •Sometimes things take time - it's not about quitting or giving up or that it's not working, it's that you're still on the path to getting it there •Sometimes friendships hibernate •Your mood is a mirror •You should always make your bed •You don't need to believe everything your brain tells you •Meaningful human connection is a life force •Your future could look NOTHING like you had ever planned and be a THOUSAND times better than you could have ever imagined