In this episode, I’m joined once again by my brother-in-arms Dr. Luke Adler to dive into something a little different: a reaction and commenting on a recent Diary of a CEO episode featuring Logan Ury and Scott Galloway. We discuss the external challenges facing men today — loneliness, economic shifts, the dating gap — while highlighting the deeper …

In this episode, I’m joined once again by my brother-in-arms Dr. Luke Adler to dive into something a little different: a reaction and commenting on a recent Diary of a CEO episode featuring Logan Ury and Scott Galloway. We discuss the external challenges facing men today — loneliness, economic shifts, the dating gap — while highlighting the deeper …

In this episode, I break down one of the biggest keys to creating a men’s group that actually lasts: decentralization. I get into why most top-down, subscription-style men’s groups eventually fall apart, why ownership matters more than convenience, and how shared leadership creates real brotherhood that sticks through every season of life. I also s…

In this episode I’m once again joined by my co-facilitator and brother in the work, Dr. Luke Adler. We go deep into the energetic anatomy of wounding—mapping how blocked emotion and stagnation impact a man’s ability to access both love and purpose. Luke shares powerful insights from decades of working with Eastern medicine and energy systems, parti…

What does it really mean for us men to get grounded? In this episode, I explore the crucial distinction between momentary grounding as a state experience versus what you're actually grounding into - the relationships, community, and life structures that catch you when you can't catch yourself. Most guys miss this entirely, focusing on quick fixes r…

In this episode I'm joined by Dr. Luke Adler to explore what we call "the masculine vortex" - that transformative space where men find healing through authentic connection. We discuss how masculine love provides the safety for men to let go of performance and truly be seen, creating a profound sense of belonging many have never experienced. Luke an…

In this episode I reveal how honest feedback from trusted brothers turbocharges male growth. "Carefrontation" breaks through limiting patterns and accelerates your journey toward authenticity. Real transformation happens when men confront each other with genuine care rather than criticism. Your path to becoming your best self begins with finding me…

In this episode I explore two fundamental needs that every man craves: purpose and belonging, and how joining a men's group can fulfill these essential needs. I discuss how purpose gives men a sense that their presence matters and impacts the world positively, while belonging provides the deep connection and sense of community that many men are mis…

In this episode, Dr. Luke Adler and I discuss the concept of anti-fragility as it relates to men's shadow work and personal development. We explore how anti-fragility goes beyond mere resilience, and is a state where challenges and stressors actually strengthen and energize rather than deplete. We highlight how the Heart of Shadow program can be an…

In this episode, I explore the fundamental weakness of macho men and the “tough guy” culture that promotes isolation and emotional suppression. I explain how every man will eventually face physical challenges or illness that they can’t simply “push through,” revealing the critical importance of having a strong support system. Learn why posturing is…

In this episode, I explore the fundamental weakness of macho men and the "tough guy" culture that promotes isolation and emotional suppression. I explain how every man will eventually face physical challenges or illness that they can't simply "push through," revealing the critical importance of having a strong support system. Learn why posturing is…

In this episode, I share a powerful practice of choosing an annual "lens" - a perspective through which to view and experience your life throughout the year. I explain how this differs from traditional goal-setting, as a lens simply offers a way to reframe experiences rather than something you can succeed or fail at, using examples from my own jour…

In this episode I dive deep into the three major energy drains affecting men today and share how to reclaim your vitality. Drawing from both personal experience and years of coaching, I explore how neglecting body nourishment, suppressing emotions, and mental rumination are secretly depleting your energy reserves. I break down why proper sleep, nut…

In this episode I dive deep into the three major energy drains affecting men today and share how to reclaim your vitality. Drawing from both personal experience and years of coaching, I explore how neglecting body nourishment, suppressing emotions, and mental rumination are secretly depleting your energy reserves. I break down why proper sleep, nut…

In this episode I explore the concept of tonic masculinity - a positive, generative force that brings vitality and growth to our world. Unlike its pathological counterparts, tonic masculinity represents the unique texture of masculine love that's deeply caring, attuned, and focused on creating positive change. I delve into how this manifestation of…

In this episode, I am joined by Dr. Luke Adler to expose the hidden price of success that's crushing high-achieving men. We reveal why driven professionals can't feel their own exhaustion until it's too late, and share the breakthrough solution we've discovered through our work with countless men. If you're winning at life but feeling empty inside,…

In this episode, I dive into the crucial distinction between having needs and being needy. Understanding this difference is vital for fostering healthy relationships and ensuring that we connect with the right people in our lives. The characteristics of neediness and how it can push people away. The importance of expressing our needs directly and t…

In this episode, I dive into the crucial distinction between having needs and being needy. Understanding this difference is vital for fostering healthy relationships and ensuring that we connect with the right people in our lives. The characteristics of neediness and how it can push people away. The importance of expressing our needs directly and t…

Discover the secrets to a sizzling sex life that keeps getting better and better year after year! In this episode, Violet and I reveal our sexual journey, sharing candid tips on maintaining erotic energy and emotional connection. Learn why safety, vulnerability, and shared responsibility are the keys to unlocking unparalleled pleasure and deepening…

In this episode, my wife Violet and I dive deep into the raw, real, and often messy side of relationships by sharing our three biggest fights and lessons from them. From trust issues and emotional disregulation to financial stress and fertility struggles, we explore how rupture and repair are essential for growth in any partnership. We also introdu…

If you only had about 2 hours a week to spend on your relationship, how could you use that time most wisely? The truth is relationships can be incredibly challenging, especially in today’s fast-paced world where it can be hard to prioritize the relationship. Even when partners deeply love each other, they may face difficulties in maintaining passio…

If you only had about 2 hours a week to spend on your relationship, how could you use that time most wisely? The truth is relationships can be incredibly challenging, especially in today’s fast-paced world where it can be hard to prioritize the relationship. Even when partners deeply love each other, they may face difficulties in maintaining passio…

In this episode, I challenge the negative perception of "nice guys" in the men's work world. The truth is, being a nice guy is an evolutionary leap in masculinity as it brings online kindness and sensitivity in men. It's not about killing or getting rid of our nice guy, but instead is all about integrating him along with our power.…

In this episode I explore reveals three game-changing types of fluidity - nervous system, emotional, and polarity - that can skyrocket your personal growth and relationships. Learn how mastering these skills can help you effortlessly navigate stress, emotions, and social dynamics. Join the Heart of Shadow Men's Group & Retreat at heartofshadow.com…

Join Dr. Luke Adler and me in this powerful episode in the Heart of Shadow podcast series as we sit down with three courageous men—Michael, Sean, and Shawn—who have undergone the transformative Heart of Shadow program. They open up about their journeys – sharing how the program helped them confront and heal deep-seated anger, fear, and past traumas…

Join Dr. Luke Adler and me in this powerful episode in the Heart of Shadow podcast series as we sit down with three courageous men—Michael, Sean, and Shawn who have undergone the transformative Heart of Shadow program. They open up about their journeys - sharing how the program helped them confront and heal deep-seated anger, fear, and past traumas…

In this episode, I'm again joined by my co-facilitator Dr. Luke Adler, a Chinese medicine doctor who's led over 50,000 healing sessions. We discuss the intersection of Chinese medicine and shadow work and delve into the holistic approach of Chinese medicine and its connection to mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. We highlight how physiolo…

In this episode, I explore the difference between temporary state experiences and permanent stage transformations, emphasizing that while retreats, workshops, and spiritual practices can provide powerful glimpses into new ways of being, the real work lies in integrating these experiences into daily life through consistent effort, community support,…

In this episode, I delve into the unique pain of debt - be it financial, health, or emotional. I share my personal experiences with credit card debt, weight loss struggles, and tackling years of accumulated clutter to highlight a common thread: the pain and paralysis of facing overwhelming debts in various aspects of life. I explore the challenging…

In this episode, I am joined by Luke Adler as we discuss the raw, unfiltered reality of personal growth and shadow work. We pull back the curtain on our own ongoing struggles with maintaining sexual vitality, showing up for our families, and confronting shame in long-term relationships. We explore how neglecting our core energies can lead to discon…

In this episode, I am joined by Luke Adler as we discuss the raw, unfiltered reality of personal growth and shadow work. We pull back the curtain on our own ongoing struggles with maintaining sexual vitality, showing up for our families, and confronting shame in long-term relationships. We explore how neglecting our core energies can lead to discon…

In this episode, I tackle a critical mistake in personal development: setting ambitious goals without addressing our nervous system's state. I challenge the "mind over matter" approach, introducing the counterintuitive concept of regulate first and action will follow. By prioritizing nervous system regulation and fostering genuine connection, we cr…

In this episode, I tackle a critical mistake in personal development: setting ambitious goals without addressing our nervous system’s state. I challenge the “mind over matter” approach, introducing the counterintuitive concept of regulate first and action will follow. By prioritizing nervous system regulation and fostering genuine connection, we cr…

Almost every man I work with struggles with either mental or emotional rumination throughout their life. In this episode, I explore 3 strategies to help you stop ruminating as a man. Get support in person at the Evolutionary Men Labor Day Retreat. Get support virtually in a Breakthrough Coaching Group.…

Almost every man I work with struggles with either mental or emotional rumination throughout their life. In this episode, I explore 3 strategies to help you stop ruminating as a man. Get support in person at the Evolutionary Men Labor Day Retreat. Get support virtually in a Breakthrough Coaching Group. Click the icon below to listen.…

In this episode of the Heart of Shadow series, Luke Adler and I delve into the nuanced discussion of why men often fear coming forward emotionally, especially in intimate relationships. We explore the idea that while there is a growing expectation for men to be more vulnerable and emotional, there can be a disconnect when men express their emotions…

In this episode, I break down the subtle but important difference between waiting for permission from the outside to take action, and the much deeper capacity to rest in consciousness until we get a clear signal inside ourselves that it’s time to act. Click the icon below to listen.על ידי Evolutionary Men

In this episode I break down the subtle but important difference between waiting for permission from the outside to take action, and the much deeper capacity to rest in consciousness until we get a clear signal inside ourselves that it's time to act.על ידי Jason Lange

This episode explores the concept of masculine leadership via creating shared reality. Shared reality involves mutual understanding and connection, minimizing conflict that arises from a lack of being on the same page. This leadership brings structure, clarity, and context to situations, making implicit things explicit and creating safety along the…

This episode explores the concept of masculine leadership via creating shared reality. Shared reality involves mutual understanding and connection, minimizing conflict that arises from a lack of being on the same page. This leadership brings structure, clarity, and context to situations, making implicit things explicit and creating safety along the…

In this episode, I further bust the lone wolf myth, highlighting how the “pick yourself up by your bootstraps” mentality isn’t all we think it to be, and why men grow best in a collective. Click the icon below to listen.על ידי Evolutionary Men

In this episode, I further bust the lone wolf myth, highlighting how the "pick yourself up by your bootstraps" mentality isn't all we think it to be, and why men grow best in a collective.על ידי Jason Lange

In this episode of the Heart of Shadow podcast series, Luke Adler and I talk about the habit of men using ejaculation for self-regulation, and how a powerful alternative is to step more into our experience via checking in with a men’s group. Join the Heart of Shadow waitlist at heartofshadow.com Click the icon below to listen.…

In this episode, I explore the important difference between integrity and congruence, and how crucially important it is to understand the distinction for nice guys.על ידי Jason Lange

This episode is short and sweet and about the important reframe of focusing on a better, not easier life, and how connection and community are the most powerful ingredients for that to happen. Click the icon below to listen.על ידי Evolutionary Men

This episode is short and sweet and about the important reframe of focusing on a better, not easier life, and how connection and community are the most powerful ingredients for that to happen.על ידי Jason Lange

In this episode, I chat with my Heart of Shadow co-facilitator Luke Adler about the common experience of men wanting to understand everything and how that's often a way to resist feeling. We go deep into how this can lead to staying in the realm of the mind and avoiding emotional connection. We explore the power of moving from the head to the heart…

Inspired by one of my favorite Pearl Jam songs, in this episode I talk about what it means to “Do the Evolution”, and its significance in personal growth and development. Drawing from developmental theory, I explore what it means to “do the work” through the lens of subject-object relations and how our awareness evolves allowing us to “see” more an…