38. Why F*ckboys are Boring and How to Not Chase in Dating with Ryan Sheldon

Flirtations! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach

Today we're asking the question "what the heck is happening out there dating?!" with Ryan Sheldon, author of the new book, "F*ckboys are Boring: A Gay Man's Guide to Dating (for everyone)."

We'll take on the topic of the f*ckboy, how he dates, how you can spot him, and what you can do with your boundaries so you don't get emotionally caught up in their web! Unless you want to date the f*ckboy for some fun, in which case we have some tips for you, too!

Ryan also shares about his experiences dating both sexes, and what it was like coming out after dating women and making the transition to dating men, oye! We'll also talk about dating psychology here, getting into the mind of men and why they do what they do.

Intertwined in this conversation are tips and strategies for not chasing and allowing yourself to be calm, cool, and collected in the dating process - which worked for Ryan who is now dating someone that involves a meet cute moment in an Uber!

Finally, we conclude with Ryan's journey of body acceptance and how becoming comfortable in his own skin changed everything and lead to more fulfilling experiences and connections.

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About our guest: Ryan Sheldon is a nationally recognized influencer, brawn model, and advocate for the LGBTQIA+ community. He has been featured on the TODAY Show and in publications like Psychology Today, Seventeen, and Teen Vogue, among others. In his latest book, FUCKBOYS ARE BORING: A Gay Man's Guide to Dating (for everyone), Ryan shares hilarious, heartbreaking, and candid stories from his personal journey through modern dating. Drawing from his own experiences, he offers a refreshingly honest and supportive guide for those seeking real connections in an era dominated by swipe culture. You can follow Ryan on Instagram @RealRyanSheldon and TikTok @RealRyanSheldon. To get a copy of "Fuckboys are Boring," check out Amazon, Barnes & Nobles, or anywhere books are found!

About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!

As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.

You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

💗 Happy flirting!