Stop Chasing Approval: The Leadership Shift Every Project Manager Must Make

Konshuhs Agility-Project Manager Coach & Agile Coach, Trainer, Mentor & Author

🔥 EPISODE OVERVIEW

• Too many project managers lose their voice trying to please the loudest critic in the room. In this episode, I will unpack how the “validation trap” quietly steals confidence, derails projects, and turns strong leaders into silent performers.
• Using real-world stories and eight powerful principles, I will explain how to lead with conviction instead of chasing applause, so you can deliver results without losing yourself.

💼 1:1 COACHING

• If imposter syndrome is slowing you down or you're tired of leading from fear instead of confidence, my 1:1 coaching will help you communicate with authority, manage difficult stakeholders, and show up like a project manager who owns the room.
• 👉 Apply here: https://pxl.to/edwardcokejr

📘 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN

• How the “validation trap” quietly weakens your leadership
• Why the loudest opinions usually come from the sidelines
• The difference between control and influence in project management
• How self-respect shapes your confidence and decision-making
• Why chasing visibility destroys long-term credibility
• How to use rejection as fuel for clarity instead of fear
• Why people-pleasing leads to burnout and how to break the cycle
• How to act with conviction without needing group approval

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS / CHAPTERS

00:00 – The Validation Trap: Where Great PMs Lose Their Voice

00:29 – The On-Prem to Cloud Migration Story

01:52 – The Turning Point: Managing Noise vs. Managing People

02:56 – Leadership Lesson: The Loudest Opinions Risk the Least

03:33 – Principle 1: The Sideline Critics (And How to Silence Them)

05:00 – Principle 2: Influence Beats Control

06:54 – Principle 3: You Can’t Outperform a Lack of Self-Respect

08:21 – Principle 4: Visibility Isn’t Leadership

09:33 – Principle 5: Rejection Is Feedback With Emotions

10:49 – Principle 6: Stop Being the Hero in Every Room

12:07 – Principle 7: Freedom Comes From Releasing Approval

13:11 – Principle 8: You Don’t Need a Committee for Common Sense

14:23 – Stop Chasing Validation. Start Leading With Conviction.

15:35 – Final Message: Leaders Deliver Results, Not Applause

💼 1:1 COACHING

If you're ready to lead with confidence—not validation—apply for 1:1 coaching. You’ll learn how to influence with clarity, command stakeholder respect, and trust your voice at every stage of the project.

👉 Apply here: https://pxl.to/edwardcokejr