S2 E28: Kate: When a Pastor/Husband is a Predator: Trauma, abuse, and Healing

Liminal Living

A pastor who had 12 victims over the course of 20 years is found out. The patriarchal leadership of the church wants to sweep it all under the rug quickly. But *Kate, who happens to be married to this pastor, says “No!” She is not allowed to lead in this culture in spite of being the greatest leader in the room with the best plan, so she decides to take matters into her own hands. This is her story of trauma, tragedy, reconciliation, and healing.

*Kate is not her real name, but a pseudonym to protect her from ongoing abusive actions of former church leaders and former husband.

Time Stamps for the episode:
00:48 Introductions
02:30 Breckie in Australia with a Cuppa
03:58 Protecting her Anonymity
06:29 Inoculation makes you blind to abuse
11:14 Rebuilding the soul after recognizing abuse
15:36 The Truth comes out
20:32 Seeking to hold him accountable
25:48 Abusive patriarchy favors the abusive man
30:14 Reconciliation begins… but not with him
34:49 Rebuilding a life
37:17 Learning self-care and boundaries after helping everyone else
41:59 The Healing journey begins
47:08 “Gospeling the Heart”
50:03 “The Father Heart of God”
54:26 Somatic Bodily Practices for Healing
57:59 Healing Non-sexual touch
1:02:34 Healing of song, sound, and puppies
1:05:52 You cannot think your way into trauma healing
1:08:14 Conclusions

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