Ep. 264 The Shadow Side of Resilience pt. 1 with Lisa Gunshore & Julie Hoyle

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The Shadow Side of Resilience with Lisa Gunshore & Julie Hoyle

What happens when resilience turns into a mask—one that hides our struggles, isolates us, and keeps us in a cycle of survival rather than true thriving? In this three-part series, Lisa Gunshore and Julie Hoyle explore the hidden costs of resilience, shedding light on the unspoken toll of always being "the strong one."

Join us as we dive deep into the shadow side of resilience, challenging societal narratives that glorify endurance while suppressing vulnerability. Through raw conversations, personal insights, and transformative wisdom, we’ll uncover how resilience can sometimes become over-adaptive—and how we can shift toward a more sustainable, whole, and authentic strength.

Episode Breakdown:
🌑 Part 1: When Strength Becomes a Mask – The Illusion of Invincibility
🔹 How resilience can suppress vulnerability and unprocessed emotions
🔹 The societal pressure to "bounce back" and its impact on mental health
🔹 Signs of burnout, dissociation, and perfectionism as coping mechanisms
🔹 The role of trauma in shaping our resilience and when it becomes a shield

⚖️ Part 2: The Weight of Endurance – The Cost of Being the Strong One
🔹 The loneliness of being the “strong one” and why support fades
🔹 The silent exhaustion of caretakers, fixers, and problem-solvers
🔹 The dangers of toxic positivity and spiritual bypassing
🔹 When perseverance stops serving growth and starts causing harm

🌿 Part 3: Shadow Work & Sustainable Strength – Transmuting Resilience into Wholeness
🔹 What suppressed emotions teach us about healing
🔹 Breaking cycles of over-resilience and embracing vulnerability
🔹 Tools for balancing strength with surrender—self-compassion, boundaries, and rest
🔹 Moving from survival mode to true thriving

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