Ep. 16: On fear.

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What’s the secret to lasting friendships? How does queer community show up through the ebbs and flows of life? And what’s the REAL story behind the “YMCA” song? In the first episode of Silver Linings, The Old Gays dive into an essential part of queer life: chosen family. They discuss the vital love, support, and sense of belonging that community provides, especially during life's toughest moments. They open up about what “queer” means to them, how chosen family has impacted their lives, and how to maintain close bonds over time–including their love for each other! “We’ve come a long way, baby.” Family isn’t just what you’re born with; it’s the people who show up, shape you, and stick around. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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This week, the riff is on fear. More specifically, fear as an obstacle.
The attitude we have towards anything can either help us or make things harder for us. The attitude is oftentimes a layer with an automatic emotional response to something. So if I have a very positive attitude, I will perceive things in a more positive manner.
When the attitude is negative, our automatic response is often fear. The thing with fear is that it helps us in a bunch of cases, but those cases are more and more rare, and the response itself rarely stand in proportion to the reality of the situation we're responding to.
In this episode, I riff on changing your attitude, especially in relation to fear.

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Ep. 16: On fear.

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41. on getting out of a Rut 12:53

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This week started bad. Loads of worrying, no proper sleep for a couple of days, and some kind of bug physically. In short, I’ve been far below 100%. Thursday, I got home from work. Tired. I went for a walk instead of a run. I decided that my body might do good with a short break from running, but I still need the movement. Got back to shower, and still tired. Grumpy. Moody. Feeling sorry for myself. In the shower, I thought about the mood, and how it’d bothered me for almost a week. Noticed it. And decided to let go of the bad juju. Stop it. I had enough. Sometimes that works. Just getting fed up. Sometimes I need to have those days or weeks where I’m moody and in a rut. It’s a signal for something else, or just the state I’m in. I know that others have these periods as well. And I’ve spoken to a lot of people who are stuck in a rut they don’t want to be in anymore without knowing what to do about it. I’ve developed and stolen some ideas on that. Shifting attention from the negative and bothering to things i want to focus on, with the goal being to get out of and away from the rut. These are some of them. Steal them with pride. Show notes →…

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40. on Running a 24h Marathon 10:56

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Last Friday, I left work at 4 pm. I went to the grocery store to pick up a bunch of cookies, chips, some fruit and light beers. The cashier looked at me like she was wishing me a happy party. I got home, changed into my running clothes and went out for a 2 mile run. Then I proceeded to run a little more than 1 mile every hour on the hour up until 4 pm on the Saturday. (doubled the last run because my knee was acting up when rested for 45 mins). When finishing the last run, I’d run my first marathon. It’s been a goal of mine for the past year to be able to run long distance again, and now I am. I want to talk about a couple of reflections I had from this experience. Show notes →…

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39. on Structure 11:04

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I’m in a period of my life right now where I’m extremely disciplined. I’ve been here before and quite enjoy it. It’s very intentional, and is done in order for me to track myself against a couple of long term goals that I have. I have a flair for structure and discipline. I think it’s fun to explore, I like being disciplined and enjoy the results hugely. Hence, I’ve had questions asked about it quite a lot. Friends asking how I keep structure, or asking me to help them create discipline and structure in their lives. To some extent I can. I’m reluctant to spread the gospel and tell people to do what I do. I’ve tried that, and it never works. There’s so much trial and error behind my systems that are vital to the result today. What I can offer are a couple of principles that seem to be universal. They’ve worked well for me and as far as I know, for people who’ve used them in their lives. → Don’t focus on the tool Going gear first is so so common. It’s what most people do when they want to get in shape. It’s what I tend to do when I want to become more creative. And it’s what a lot of people do when looking for productivity. Even though I don’t use apple notes, I can completely relate to this image. When looking for tools, we don’t focus on what’s important or is going to have the biggest impact on our structure. We’re making things complicated, messy and eventually things are going to get lost. On top of that, I’ve been guilty of trying to “optimise” my tools rather than actually doing the work I’m supposed to do. The whole web in the middle takes time, and can feel like working, but it isn’t. One last note: When you develop systems for structure, you’re going to be fine with whatever tool you’re using. I’m currently using one app at work and another at home. I’m sufficient in both because I have my systems down. → Build systems you trust. In order for personal structure to work, you have to trust your systems. You have to trust that everything you need, be it notes, reminders, calendar invites or mathematic formulas, are in the right place. That’s why we build systems in the first place. A challenge that I’ve managed to condition out of myself, is that we tend to flex these systems. Most of us have a preferred place to take notes. If you don’t have one, you should. But when you’re in a meeting and forgot your computer, you’re gonna grab a pen and pencil to take notes. When you later on need those notes, you don’t instantly go to the notebook, you go to the app where you usually take your notes. All of a sudden, you can’t trust the system to contain all your notes anymore, and the system is going to fail. What you need to do is be ruthless with these rules for yourself. If you end up taking notes on a notepad once, you need to instantly convert those notes into your regular system. The same goes for all the systems you build for yourself to become more structured. → Decide and revise Every once in a while, I revise the systems I’ve built. The rules that I try to keep to. The way I do things. Then I decide on what I want to keep, what to get rid of and what to tweak. And commit. Systems is to a large extent about commitment. It’s about following through and doing what you’ve said you’ll do over and over again. While that’s important, it’s also important to do the right thing over and over again. Reminding me of the line from Love yours by J.Cole: The good news is, you came a long way The bad news is, you went the wrong way Coming a long way doesn’t really matter if you’re going the wrong way. Hence, make sure to revise properly and check your map. Show notes →…

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38. on Experimenting 14:17

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When I was 14, I was convinced I needed 10 hours of sleep. I spoke to my mom about it, and told her that I constantly felt tired despite sleeping so much. To be fair, I was doing 6-10 sessions of football and running per week. But ten hours every night seems a bit high looking back. My mom told me that there’s such a thing as sleeping too much. I was confused, astounded and in disbelief. She then encouraged me to try it out. Test what happens if I sleep 6 hours a night for a week. Or 7, or 8. I’ve run a bunch of experiments on myself, some more successful than others. It’s a way for me to get to know myself, know my limits and learn more about my abilities. I’ve come to realise that not everyone does this, and I think it’s a shame. Sleep has been one of the integral ones, but far from the only thing I’ve experimented with. Every experiment has made me grow a little bit. Every single one, especially the miserable ones. That’s what we’re speaking about today. Show notes →…

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37. on Values 11:46

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I remember vividly sitting in a workshop where we were speaking about our values. We’d been given a list of 60-something words to choose from, and were tasked with choosing 3-5 that felt important. After that, we were split into groups. Each person was given 20 minutes to share a story related to their word with the prompt “A time when [value word] was important to me…”. I was 20 at the time, in a group with people older and younger. It was wonderful speaking about these things. One woman in her 40s shared that feeling secure was important to her, that she’d declined job opportunities that fel too risky because of it. As an ambitious 20-year old I couldn’t fathom it. She continued sharing how she just kept thinking about what would happen to her children if she couldn’t pay her mortgage. Not put food on the table. What her husband would say and think about her. That’s when I understood. We all have values that are more or less important to us at different points in time. I have one set of values today, but I know very well that I didn’t have some of them just 6 months ago. They change over time, with us and with our environments. Show notes →…

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36. on Grit 12:04

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Grit has proven one of the most important skills and traits in predicting success. That is, if you want to see who’s going to become successful, look for grit. Grit is what keeps you going when inspiration, motivation and sometimes even reason goes out the window. I’ve practiced grit over the past 6-7 years. More or less intentionally, I’ve tried to find ways to keep myself going when I don’t feel like it. It’s a big part of why I’ve developed the way I have in those years. Especially now, where I’ve set up a goal to become an ultra runner, I know that the practice is going to pay off. I’ve already felt it. I don’t want to exercise every day, despite that being my plan. But waking up at 4:30 on a windy/rainy/snowy Sunday morning, I don’t always want to go for a run. But I do it either way. Show notes →…

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35. on Problem Solving 10:02

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We all solve problems all the time. It’s natural to humans to do so. Almost everything you see around you is a solution to a perceived problem. But the skill of solving problems is hard to a lot of people. Having the right resources or tools doesn’t mean you’re able to solve a problem. You need to have a strategy on how to use those tools. I haven’t spent nearly enough time on developing models or strategies for problem solving, at least not consciously. Now I’ve started, and I think you should as well. Show notes →…

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34. on Upskilling 11:41

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I think letting someone else take care of your education, of your learning and be responsible for your development is boring. It's quite naive, and frankly foolish. It's something that you need to be in charge of. Hence, I’ve tried to take charge of these things in my life. It’s not always easy, and it’s most certainly not always comfortable. But I think it’s necessary if you want it to happen. No one else is going to. Show notes →…

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33. on Networks 11:27

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I’ve been a part of all kinds of networks over the past 6-7 years. Business related, large friend groups, creative hubs and online Facebook groups. All of them have had impact on shaping me into who I am and have created opportunities for me that I otherwise wouldn’t have had. They’ve also made me realise that there’s immense power in being part of a community, for a number of reasons. For growth, comfort as well as challenge and inspiration. I think access to communities and networks is going to get harder in the future. People are going to protect their closest communities and we’re going to value small, exclusive groups rather than big networks with loose bonds between one another. Hence, those of us that seek community need to act. Act by creating, participating and nurturing the networks we want today in order to have them in 10 years. What networks and communities do you want to have in your life? Show notes →…

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32. on Information and Learning 22:10

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We don’t live in an information society anymore. Simply because information is virtually free and infinitely accessible. What I think matters today is 3 things: Can you find the right information and make sure it is indeed the right information? Can you convert the information to contextual knowledge? Can you convert that contextual knowledge to an action or skill? Simply put: How do you solve complex problems that you haven’t encountered before? Show notes →…

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31. on Time pt. 2 15:08

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Time and time again. This riff is a bit more practical on time than the last one I did. A bit more in depth on two theories that I heard just a couple of days ago and since have pondered happily. How we speak about time is extremely powerful. Just as I spoke about the last time around, the way you perceive time can impact your actions, behaviours and even mood. At leas it does for me. Hence, I think these two theories and thoughts might be quite useful in speaking about time with others. Show notes →…

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30. On being Competitive 12:53

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I’ve reflected quite a lot on my own competitiveness lately. I have a reputation among my friends of being obnoxiously competitive. It’s served me well at times, just as it’s been a hindering factor to many of my relationships. Hence, I want to work on making it a choice to be competitive. It's a superpower that should be used with care. Show notes →…

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29. On Time 15:51

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I’ve tried to optimise time on being productive, on fitting the most things to do in the least amount of time and on feeling the best in the moment. Right now, I’m optimising it to benefit me over time. In trying to bend time to my current will, I’ve spent some time thinking about time. The mental models people have come up with, the metaphysics of time and most importantly, how do we perceive time as humans? These thoughts have become even more prominent in periods of my life where I’ve felt a shortage of time. I’ve had several periods where I try my best to optimise time spent in order to get to do the things I want. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. Either way, these mental models or thoughts have been helpful in thinking about time. Show notes →…

לפני 5 years12:25

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Mindfulness is absolutely, without a doubt, one of the things that myself and my friends have been spending the most time talking about in the past 5 years. It's also something that most people have a relationship to, as do I. That relationship is a bit complex, and not always at its best. I think mindfulness, if practiced, should be practiced as a proactive activity. I also think it needs to be done because one thinks it's worth doing. Those two components, to me, are at the heart of mindfulness. Rushing to yoga class is counterproductive and it doesn't serve the purpose of mindfulness itself at all. And that's what this riff is about, the core principle of mindfulness, and how you can practice it without practicing it.…

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