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Tips for Dismantling the Complying Codependent Dysfunction

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תוכן מסופק על ידי Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-Hilliard. כל תוכן הפודקאסטים כולל פרקים, גרפיקה ותיאורי פודקאסטים מועלים ומסופקים ישירות על ידי Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-Hilliard או שותף פלטפורמת הפודקאסט שלו. אם אתה מאמין שמישהו משתמש ביצירה שלך המוגנת בזכויות יוצרים ללא רשותך, אתה יכול לעקוב אחר התהליך המתואר כאן https://he.player.fm/legal.

If you have ever had that annoying conversation where you say, “Where should we go for dinner?” and your partner or friend responds, “I don’t really care, wherever you pick,” you’ll relate with how frustrating it is to be in relationship with someone who uses the Complying Codependent strategy. These Compliers have a nasty habit of making you the boss, whether you want to be or not by always deferring to what you want and not initiating. But it’s not that they have to. They believe they are doing it because you want them to!

Those who use the Complying Codependent strategy have a greater need to be useful than to relate to others. Compliers see themselves lower on the social hierarchy than their partner or others in their lives. They wait to be told what to do so they can comply, make sure they do things correctly and never get in trouble. They can always be sure they're doing the right thing if someone else tells them what to do. This approach to relationships means they can maintain the comfort of their "inner cave" where they are safe from rejection, abandonment, and disapproval.

In our 50th episode (what a milestone!), we continue our series of the four Submissive Codependent Strategies used in relationships, deep diving into the Complying Codependent Dysfunction. We talk about how it manifests in relationships and reveal that it is actually a survival coping strategy used by certain personality types because they got stuck in their development. We’ll also recount many stories (our own and of our clients) and share tips and tricks for dismantling this dysfunction. You might recognize yourself, your partner, or your boss in this session, so make sure you listen!

If you want to know more about our work with dismantling dysfunctions and unleashing relationship potential, check out: https://www.dranitsaris-hilliard.com

Sign up for our newsletters: https://bit.ly/dismantlingdysfunction

IN THIS EPISODE:

  • [02:02] Episode Introduction
  • [03:03] What Is the Complying Codependent Dysfunction?
  • [12:32] Behaviors of the Strategy
  • [25:36] Tips for Dismantling the Strategy
  • [42:07] Episode Gem
  • [44:00] Episode Wrap Up

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  • Complying Codependents defer to others to avoid conflict or end a discussion that might lead to conflict, having conversations that are superficial or task oriented. Anyone looking for an equal partnership or collaboration with someone who uses this strategy will run into a lot of relationship issues.
  • The emotional expression of others is perceived as a threat to the Complying Codependent. They find emotions to be unpredictable, unnecessary, and anxiety-producing. They prefer everyone to interact in a logical, pragmatic fashion without messy emotions that create so much distress for them. Believing emotions are problems to be solved, they don't know how to be useful if their partner is upset as nothing is broken that needs fixing.
  • Complying Codependents are often accused by others of not caring. Whether at work or at home, they can appear to be in a holding pattern waiting for something to happen or for someone to tell them what to do. Complying codependents aren't always sure what to talk about and are often unable to tolerate even simple personal conversations or conversations where there is brainstorming or problem-solving.
  • If you are struggling in relationships because you or others are using the Complying Dysfunctional Codependent Strategy, you are not alone. Contact us for more information on how we can help.
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תוכן מסופק על ידי Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-Hilliard. כל תוכן הפודקאסטים כולל פרקים, גרפיקה ותיאורי פודקאסטים מועלים ומסופקים ישירות על ידי Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-Hilliard או שותף פלטפורמת הפודקאסט שלו. אם אתה מאמין שמישהו משתמש ביצירה שלך המוגנת בזכויות יוצרים ללא רשותך, אתה יכול לעקוב אחר התהליך המתואר כאן https://he.player.fm/legal.

If you have ever had that annoying conversation where you say, “Where should we go for dinner?” and your partner or friend responds, “I don’t really care, wherever you pick,” you’ll relate with how frustrating it is to be in relationship with someone who uses the Complying Codependent strategy. These Compliers have a nasty habit of making you the boss, whether you want to be or not by always deferring to what you want and not initiating. But it’s not that they have to. They believe they are doing it because you want them to!

Those who use the Complying Codependent strategy have a greater need to be useful than to relate to others. Compliers see themselves lower on the social hierarchy than their partner or others in their lives. They wait to be told what to do so they can comply, make sure they do things correctly and never get in trouble. They can always be sure they're doing the right thing if someone else tells them what to do. This approach to relationships means they can maintain the comfort of their "inner cave" where they are safe from rejection, abandonment, and disapproval.

In our 50th episode (what a milestone!), we continue our series of the four Submissive Codependent Strategies used in relationships, deep diving into the Complying Codependent Dysfunction. We talk about how it manifests in relationships and reveal that it is actually a survival coping strategy used by certain personality types because they got stuck in their development. We’ll also recount many stories (our own and of our clients) and share tips and tricks for dismantling this dysfunction. You might recognize yourself, your partner, or your boss in this session, so make sure you listen!

If you want to know more about our work with dismantling dysfunctions and unleashing relationship potential, check out: https://www.dranitsaris-hilliard.com

Sign up for our newsletters: https://bit.ly/dismantlingdysfunction

IN THIS EPISODE:

  • [02:02] Episode Introduction
  • [03:03] What Is the Complying Codependent Dysfunction?
  • [12:32] Behaviors of the Strategy
  • [25:36] Tips for Dismantling the Strategy
  • [42:07] Episode Gem
  • [44:00] Episode Wrap Up

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  • Complying Codependents defer to others to avoid conflict or end a discussion that might lead to conflict, having conversations that are superficial or task oriented. Anyone looking for an equal partnership or collaboration with someone who uses this strategy will run into a lot of relationship issues.
  • The emotional expression of others is perceived as a threat to the Complying Codependent. They find emotions to be unpredictable, unnecessary, and anxiety-producing. They prefer everyone to interact in a logical, pragmatic fashion without messy emotions that create so much distress for them. Believing emotions are problems to be solved, they don't know how to be useful if their partner is upset as nothing is broken that needs fixing.
  • Complying Codependents are often accused by others of not caring. Whether at work or at home, they can appear to be in a holding pattern waiting for something to happen or for someone to tell them what to do. Complying codependents aren't always sure what to talk about and are often unable to tolerate even simple personal conversations or conversations where there is brainstorming or problem-solving.
  • If you are struggling in relationships because you or others are using the Complying Dysfunctional Codependent Strategy, you are not alone. Contact us for more information on how we can help.
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