Ep. 15 Relational Fuckery, The Pursuit Of Perfection Vs Connecting Through Our Humanity - James-Olivia Chu Hillman

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This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom for anyone seeking to cultivate healthier relationships. James-Olivia Chu Hillman is on the show this week.
We explore the differences between being witnessed and being perceived. We talk about love beyond its fuzzy feeling and dive into & examine supremacy culture, perfectionism, objectivity and their implications on our self-connection and relationships with others.
Gain insights into managing disagreements, understand the transformative power of slowing down, asking pivotal questions and the limitations and potential that can shape the outcomes of our conversations. At the heart of their conversation is the profound sentiment that love is both a decision and action, not just emotion.
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00:00 Introduction to Supremacy Culture and Perfectionism

00:59 Podcast Introduction and Guest Introduction

02:50 Exploring the Concept of Being Witnessed vs Being Perceived

03:17 Introduction to James Olivia and Her Work

09:42 Exploring the Difference Between Being Witnessed and Being Perceived

14:37 Understanding the Impact of Supremacy Culture on Relationships

20:57 Offer for a Somatic Healing Course

27:24 Understanding the Concept of Relational Fuckery

32:28 Discussing the Importance of Relating to Self

36:46 Understanding the Role of Supremacy Culture in Relational Issues

44:42 The Importance of Connection in Relationships

46:30 The Power of Physical Connection and Closeness

47:14 Practices for Enhancing Connection: Kind Eyes and Presence

48:07 Navigating Online Disagreements and Maintaining Connection

48:51 The Role of Social Media in Connection and Disconnection

51:06 The Importance of Being Seen and Heard

53:18 The Power of Challenging Our Own Beliefs

56:30 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Reclaiming Pleasure

01:02:44 The Importance of Love and Relating in Relationships

01:15:58 The Power of Asking 'What Do I Want?' in Relationships

01:18:55 Where to Find More Resources on Relating and Connection

01:20:36 Closing Thoughts and Appreciation