Looking beyond the pain.

My Inner Torch

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In this podcast, I discuss the trauma that comes from relationships with individuals who have Cluster B personality disorders, drawing on my own experiences and the struggle of feeling victimized. I encourage listeners to recognize their self-worth and steer clear of unhealthy relationships, using the metaphor of changing out ill-fitting shoes. Many of us grapple with the decision to stay or leave, often feeling paralyzed by fear and a misguided sense of normalcy, even in abusive situations. I address the complexities of emotional attachment and the practical difficulties that make it hard to leave long-term relationships.

I share my commitment to refraining from infidelity, even in the face of marital unhappiness, emphasizing the need for healing from trauma before diving into new relationships. Accepting that a relationship may not be fulfilling is a tough challenge, and I know it can lead to justifications for staying. Co-parenting with partners who exhibit narcissistic or borderline traits is especially difficult, even when children are not involved. I highlight the emotional strain of loving someone who is incapable of reciprocating that love and urge everyone to reflect on why they remain in such situations.

I also reflect on the disillusionment that sets in when the initial facade of a partner with borderline or narcissistic traits fades away, exposing harmful behaviors. While I express compassion for my partner’s past trauma, I stress the importance of being truthful with myself and acknowledging my own pain. I advocate for cutting ties after leaving these relationships to promote healing, warning that maintaining any connection, including co-parenting, can be detrimental. Despite the challenges that come with this process, I encourage you to look beyond immediate discomfort in order to achieve personal growth and healing.
Find your inner peace.

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