3 Things You'll Notice in Your First Healthy Relationship

On Attachment

In this episode, we’re exploring three key things you’ll likely notice when you experience your first truly healthy relationship. While healthy relationships are often idealised, they still come with their own challenges.
We’ll discuss how they invite vulnerability, reveal where we may have been hiding behind dysfunction, and show us that even secure partners can be imperfect. Finally, we’ll talk about how conflict in a healthy relationship doesn’t disappear, but it feels safer and more productive.

Key Points Covered:

1. Vulnerability & Revealing Dysfunction: When you're in a healthy dynamic, the absence of chaos can feel unfamiliar, and it may expose areas where you’ve avoided vulnerability by leaning on old, dysfunctional patterns.
2. Imperfection in Secure Partners: It’s easy to idealise secure partners as perfect, but it’s important to remember that they, too, are human. The difference is in how they respond to their imperfections and how you both handle those inevitable moments of frustration.
3. Safe Conflict: You’ll realise that disagreements can be handled with mutual respect and a sense of safety, where both partners feel heard and valued, even in moments of tension.

Further Links & Resources

• Sign up for Healing Anxious Attachment
• Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
• Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE)
• Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX
• Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment
• Visit my website