Season 5 Episode 8: The Myth of the Domestic Violence Incident

Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel

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In this episode, David & Ruth speak about the Myth of the Domestic Violence Incident chapter David's recently published book: "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to Transform The Way We Keep Children Safe From Domestic Violence."
They discuss how an isolated incident lens:

• Focuses systems interventions & professional responses on isolated acts of physical violence rather than on patterns of violence & coercive control which blinds professionals and systems to the wider dangers created to adult & child survivors by a perpetrator
• Makes it harder to see the loss of liberty and entrapment generated by the perpetrator’s pattern
• Fails to document & address the danger & harm created by nonphysical acts of abuse & removal of liberty (coercive control) such as:
  • ongoing control directed at the adult partner
  • willingness to harm children as a way to pressure and hurt their partner
  • the underlying attitudes and beliefs that entitle Perpetrator to control & violence
  • the manipulations of systems and threats or actual use of systems like family court and child protection to continue fear and control campaigns
• How the Safe & Together Model helps identify entrapment, loss liberty and impact on child, partner and family functioning to increase the awareness of professionals as to the patterns, trauma & danger created by a perpetrator
  
  Related Podcasts:
  Intro to David Mandel’s book “Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers”
  https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/podcast-interview-social-world/Want to
  
  Unveiling the Impact of Domestic Violence on Children: Beyond the Myth of the Child Witness
  Social World Podcast Interview with David Mandel about his new book “Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers”
  
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