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תוכן מסופק על ידי Courtney Love Gavin and Perfectionist Solutions. כל תוכן הפודקאסטים כולל פרקים, גרפיקה ותיאורי פודקאסטים מועלים ומסופקים ישירות על ידי Courtney Love Gavin and Perfectionist Solutions או שותף פלטפורמת הפודקאסט שלהם. אם אתה מאמין שמישהו משתמש ביצירה שלך המוגנת בזכויות יוצרים ללא רשותך, אתה יכול לעקוב אחר התהליך המתואר כאן https://he.player.fm/legal.

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The War and Treaty Are Getting Carried Away 46:55

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The War and Treaty’s Michael and Tanya Trotter grew up in Cleveland, Ohio, and Washington, DC, respectively, but both have family roots in the South. They also grew up in the musical traditions of their churches – Tanya in the Black Baptist Church and Michael in the Seventh Day Adventist Church – where they learned the power of song to move people. After becoming a father at a very young age, Michael eventually joined the armed forces and served in Iraq and Germany, where he took up songwriting as a way of dealing with his experiences there. Meanwhile Tanya embarked on a singing and acting career after a breakthrough appearance in Sister Act 2 alongside Whoopi Goldberg and Lauryn Hill. Now, after a long and sometimes traumatic journey, Michael and Tanya are married, touring, winning all sorts of awards, and set to release their fifth album together, and their fourth as The War and Treaty. Sid talks to Michael and Tanya about the new record, Plus One , as well as their collaboration with Miranda Lambert, what it was like to record at FAME studios in Muscle Shoals, and how they’re blending country, soul, gospel, and R&B. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…

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How do I stop living in fear of failure? Why can't I stop overthinking? When will I feel good enough? Why am I so hard on myself? Why do I self-sabotage? Will ruminating + catastrophizing ever end? There's a BETTER Way to Perfectionism, that's empowering highly driven, Type-A, ambitious perfectionists to OWN their perfectionistic tendencies instead of being owned by it. Perfectionism Rewired host Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) illuminates this in every episode. Listen for fierce insights for perfectionists on exiting victim mentality, what self-sabotage *really is*, how to stop people pleasing without compromising kindness, overthinking, catastrophizing, ruminating and black and white thinking, so you can quit fighting against your perfectionistic tendencies and start enjoying the life you've worked so hard to create. Perfectionism Rewired podcast provides answers to questions like: - Self worth vs self esteem - Why am I overthinking - How to increase self confidence - What causes perfectionism anxiety - Why am i so hard on myself - Am I A Perfectionist - WTF is Interoception? Does It Build Resilience? - how to rewire your brain Being a perfectionist is very powerful. But only if you know how to leverage it. For more on optimizing your perfectionism go to https://courtneylovegavin.com

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Are You Using Your Perfectionist Brain Wrong? Signs, Neuroscience + Solution 17:18

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Discover the inner workings of your perfectionist brain—how it predicts, perceives and often distorts your reality. Uncover how being super rigid, overly controlling, excessively checking your email, constantly seeking reassurance, people pleasing, over-preparing — and why these are signs your perfectionistic brain is misfiring. Plus, learn the neuroscience-backed solution to take charge of your perfectionism instead of letting it rule you. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-What Makes Perfectionistic Brains Unique 04:02-How The Brain Works 07:32-Neuroscience Behind Overthinking 09:25-Catastrophizing Your Way to Chronic Stress 10:37-Ruminate + 11 Signs Using Your Brain Incorrectly 11:58-Neuroplasticy to rewire the brain 14:03-What Gets In The Way of Rewiring 15:59-Black + White Thinking Resources Mentioned In Episode 249: Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session Catastrophizing Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 188 Catastrophize. Ruminate. Overthink. Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 216 Will Save Your Sanity(might change your life) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 193 Citations/Sources: Braem, S., Coenen, E., Klaas Bombeke, Bochove, van, & Wim Notebaert. (2015). Open your eyes for prediction errors. Cognitive Affective & Behavioral Neuroscience , 15 (2), 374–380. https://doi.org/10.3758/s13415-014-0333-4 Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry , 14 (1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98 Mattes, A., Mück, M., & Stahl, J. (2022). Perfectionism-related variations in error processing in a task with increased response selection complexity. Personality Neuroscience , 5 . https://doi.org/10.1017/pen.2022.3 ‌ ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create instead of obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism"…

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Tired of Feeling Overwhelmed? Start Here 22:05

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Feeling overwhelmed? Stressed out? Anxious? Being vague about your emotions is like saying you're "craving food" for dinner—utterly unhelpful! Your perfectionist brain needs precision to create the right action plan for you. Learn why labeling your emotions accurately is crucial for regulating your body's responses and the essential skillset all perfectionists need to understand their emotions, what the feelings mean and what to do about them, guided by the latest neuroscience research. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS: 01:08-Controlling of emotions 03:13-How to stop feeling overwhelmed 05:28-Muffin-Cupcake Experiment 07:54-Why Words Hold Physiological Power 09:48-Emotional Regulation skills 12:14-What the skill of emotional granularity buys you 14:23-How to rewire your brain 15:27-Becoming an Emotional Sommelier 18:52-How do you construct your emotions more accurately? Resources Mentioned In Episode 248: Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session Avoiding Perfectionist Mistakes in Expressing Emotions Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 173 Will Save Your Sanity(might change your life) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 193 Everything You Need to Know About Self Regulation as a Perfectionist Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 194 Citations/Sources: Barrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. Barrett, L. F. (2016). The theory of constructed emotion: an active inference account of interoception and categorization. Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience , nsw154–nsw154. https://doi.org/10.1093/scan/nsw154 Barrett, L. F., Gross, J., Christensen, T. C., & Benvenuto, M. (2001). Knowing what you're feeling and knowing what to do about it: Mapping the relation between emotion differentiation and emotion regulation. Cognition and Emotion, 15 (6), 713–724. https://doi.org/10.1080/02699930143000239 ‌Crum, A. J., Corbin, W. R., Brownell, K. D., & Salovey, P. (2011). Mind over milkshakes: Mindsets, not just nutrients, determine ghrelin response. Health Psychology , 30 (4), 424–429. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0023467 Gendron, M., Lindquist, K. A., Barsalou, L., & Barrett, L. F. (2012). Emotion words shape emotion percepts. Emotion, 12 (2), 314–325. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0026007 Hoemann, K., Gendron, M., & Barrett, L. F. (2022). Assessing the Power of Words to Facilitate Emotion Category Learning. Affective Science, 3(1), 69–80. https://doi.org/10.1007/s42761-021-00084-4 Hoemann, K., Khan, Z., Kamona, N., Dy, J., Barrett, L. F., & Quigley, K. S. (2021). Investigating the relationship between emotional granularity and cardiorespiratory physiological activity in daily life. Psychophysiology , 58 (6). https://doi.org/10.1111/psyp.13818 Hoemann, K., Lee, Y., Kuppens, P., Gendron, M., & Boyd, R. L. (2023). Emotional Granularity is Associated with Daily Experiential Diversity. Affective Science , 4 (2), 291–306. https://doi.org/10.1007/s42761-023-00185-2 Hoemann, K., Nielson, C., Yuen, A., Gurera, J. W., Quigley, K. S., & Barrett, L. F. (2021). Expertise in emotion: A scoping review and unifying framework for individual differences in the mental representation of emotional experience. Psychological Bulletin , 147(11), 1159–1183. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000327 Satpute, A. B., Nook, E. C., Narayanan, S., Shu, J., Weber, J., & Ochsner, K. N. (2016). Emotions in "Black and White" or Shades of Gray? How We Think About Emotion Shapes Our Perception and Neural Representation of Emotion. Psychological science , 27(11), 1428–1442. https://doi.org/10.1177/0956797616661555 Westlin, C., Theriault, J. E., Yuta Katsumi, Nieto-Castanon, A., Kucyi, A., Ruf, S. F., … Barrett, L. F. (2023). Improving the study of brain-behavior relationships by revisiting basic assumptions. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 27(3), 246–257. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tics.2022.12.015 ‌ ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create instead of obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism"…

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The Right Way To Compare Yourself 23:39

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It’s impossible to stop self-comparison as a perfectionist. You.Are.Going.To.Compare.Yourself and here’s the best way to do it! Discover 6 empowering ways to rewire unhealthy self-comparisons, perfectionism trash trades, how to tell if you’re fear-based striving, live coaching on 4 IRL examples of comparing, the only skillset you need for this to work 100% of the time and a tool to instantly upgrade comparing yourself On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS: 01:26-Choosing Your Response to Comparisons 03:07-The Skill Set of CAKE 05:41-Trash Trades in Perfectionism 06:55-Healthy vs. Unhealthy Comparisons 08:47-How to Reframe Self-Critical Thoughts 09:25-Breaking Free from Fear-Based Striving 10:49-Living in the Present, Not the Future 15:52-What Self-Comparisons Actually Reveal 17:39-Tool to instantly upgrade comparing yourself 21:48-How Tiny, Mighty Progress Fuels You Resources Mentioned In Episode 247: Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session Comparing Yourself [PART ONE] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 245 How Can I Stop Comparing Myself [PART TWO] Perfectionism Rewired Eo. 246 Meeting Yourself Where You Are Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 187 Will Save Your Sanity(might change your life) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 193 Citations/Sources: Olson, J. M., Buhrmann, O., & Roese, N. J. (2000). Comparing Comparisons. Handbook of Social Comparison , 379–398. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4615-4237-7_18 Sirois, F.M., Monforton, J. and Simpson, M. (2010) "If Only I Had Done Better": Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin , 36 (12). 1675 - 1692. ISSN 0146-1672 https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614 Stoeber, J., & Diedenhofen, B. (2017). Multidimensional perfectionism and counterfactual thinking: Some think upward, others downward. Personality and Individual Differences , 119 , 118–121. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.07.009 ‌ ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create instead of obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism"…

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Listening to the podcast + interested in learning more about services 2:00

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SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT. Press play.Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create instead of obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism"…

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How Can I Stop Comparing Myself 23:45

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Tactical "stop it" approaches to self-comparison DO NOT WORK for perfectionists. Find out WHY along with the hidden costs of comparing yourself, why the approach you’ve taken to stopping self-comparison hasn't worked, what you actually need to do and scientifically what causes perfectionists to have an even harder time than non-perfectionistic people in rewiring this habit. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-Why self comparison tactics fail perfectionists 01:41-The hidden costs of comparing yourself 06:31-Recognize self comparison as a type of self punishment. 10:11-Why intellect isn't enough to rewire perfectionist tendencies 12:13-Developing skill sets over gathering knowledge 15:00-Why it's scientifically harder for perfectionists to stop unhealthy self-comparison 16:08-Acceptance vs. judgment in rewiring perfectionism 18:00-What Silver vs. bronze medalists show us about comparing yourself to others 21:30-Choosing growth over fear of failure Resources Mentioned In Episode 246: Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session Comparing Yourself (pt.1) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 245 Discovering Your Hidden Motivators Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 80 Intrinsic Motivational Patterns Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 66 Citations/Sources: Curran, T., & Hill, A. P. (2019). Perfectionism is increasing over time: A meta-analysis of birth cohort differences from 1989 to 2016. Psychological Bulletin , 145 (4), 410–429. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000138 Sirois, F.M., Monforton, J. and Simpson, M. (2010) "If Only I Had Done Better": Perfectionism and the Functionality of Counterfactual Thinking. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin , 36 (12). 1675 - 1692. ISSN 0146-1672 https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167210387614 Stoeber, J., & Diedenhofen, B. (2017). Multidimensional perfectionism and counterfactual thinking: Some think upward, others downward. Personality and Individual Differences , 119 , 118–121. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.07.009 ‌ ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create instead of obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism"…

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Comparing Yourself 22:30

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Comparing yourself all the time? Tired of feeling like you never quite measure up...no matter how much you accomplish? It's not just YOU! Discover the sneaky specific ways self-comparison shows up for perfectionists, the difference between self-awareness + self-coaching, why self-comparison is not your fault but is your responsibility to change. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-How you can stop comparing yourself to others 02:32-The Annoying Problem with Surface-Level Self Comparison Tips 03:46-Self Awareness vs. Self Coaching: What's the Difference? 05:34-Dangers of DIY Approaches to Rewiring Perfectionism 07:25-Why “How To Stop COmparing Yourself To Others” tips backfire for perfectionists 12:10-Comparing Insides to Outsides Never Adds Up 14:13-Moving the goalposts 17:49-Punishment vs. Discipline: Changing Behaviors without Pain 19:31-Understanding the Why Behind Your Perfectionistic Tendencies Resources Mentioned In Episode 245: Perfect Start Introductory Session Single Coaching Session Be Proud of Yourself Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 237 Chasing Validation Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 236 Proving Yourself At Work Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 232 Citations/Sources: McCarthy, P. A., Meyer, T., Back, M. D., & Morina, N. (2023). How we compare: A new approach to assess aspects of the comparison process for appearance-based standards and their associations with individual differences in wellbeing and personality measures. PLOS ONE , 18 (1), e0280072–e0280072. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0280072 White, J. B., Langer, E. J., Yariv, L., & Welch, J. C. (2006). Frequent Social Comparisons and Destructive Emotions and Behaviors: The Dark Side of Social Comparisons. Journal of Adult Development , 13 (1), 36–44. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10804-006-9005-0 Zhou, Y., Yang, Y., Jiang, H., & Guo, C. (2025). Self-comparison versus social-comparison: The impact of imperfection on executive function in perfectionists. Personality and Individual Differences, 234, 112965. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2024.112965 ‌ ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create instead of obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism"…

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Overexplaining 23:41

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Tired of getting tangled in your own words? Overcomplicating it? Asking "Does that make sense?" at the end of every sentence? Discover why you can't stop talking (even though you REALLY want to), the science behind overexplaining for perfectionists, how overexplaining is harmful to your health mentally, emotionally and physically, and why its a coping skill you want to retire ASAP. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized , private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-Understanding the Science Behind Overexplaining 02:24-Why Perfectionists Are More Likely To Overexplain 05:18-Control Tactics and Overexplaining 08:46-Self Worth vs. Self Esteem 12:32-The Emotional Charge Behind Overexplaining 14:02-Toll of Overexplaining on Mental + Physical Health 16:18-How Interoception Kills The Need To Overexplain 20:39-TRUTH BOOTH What Overexplaining Really Is 22:33-Steps to Resilience and Reducing Overexplaining Resources Mentioned In Episode 244: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239 Care-ing vs Carrying Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202 Interoception + Self-Regulation Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 194 Inner Critic Be-Gone Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 212 Emotional Overexplaining Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 173 Proving Yourself At Work Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 232 Citations/Sources: Barrett, L. F., & Simmons, W. K. (2015). Interoceptive predictions in the brain. Nature Reviews. Neuroscience, 16(7), 419–429. https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn3950 ‌Price, C. J., & Hooven, C. (2018). Interoceptive Awareness Skills for Emotion Regulation: Theory and Approach of Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT). Frontiers in Psychology , 9 . https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.00798 Ventura-Bort, C., Wendt, J., & Mathias Weymar. (2021). The Role of Interoceptive Sensibility and Emotional Conceptualization for the Experience of Emotions. Frontiers in Psychology, 12. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.712418 ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create instead of obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism"…

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Dealing With Uncertainty When You Want To Control EVERYTHING 8:07

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Craving Certainty? That need to be absolutely, undeniably, 100% sure before making a move? You’re not alone. In this episode, I unravel why the struggle of dealing with uncertainty holds high performance perfectionists back, how to recognize it in your own life and take control of the fear uncertainty and doubt (so it stops controlling you!). You’ll discover practical strategies to break free from the cage of high uncertainty avoidance and gain the confidence to move forward, even before every detail is known. Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for the right time won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-High Uncertainty Avoidance 00:40-What Perfectionists ARE Secretly in Control Of 01:36-Why Perfectionists Crave Certainty 02:21-Examples of Uncertainty 03:39-The Myth of Ironclad Certainty 04:47-Uncertainty Tolerance is a Learnable Skill 05:34-Making Good Decisions 06:50-Moving Forward Even When You Don't Know The Outcome 07:27-Rewiring Perfectionism from the Inside Out Resources Mentioned In Episode 243: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239 Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234 Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202 Citations/Sources: Anderson, E. C., R. Nicholas Carleton, Diefenbach, M., & Paul. (2019). The Relationship Between Uncertainty and Affect. Frontiers in Psychology, 10. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.02504 Reis-Dennis, S., Gerrity, M. S., & Geller, G. (2021). Tolerance for Uncertainty and Professional Development: a Normative Analysis. Journal of General Internal Medicine, 36(8), 2408–2413. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11606-020-06538-y Seif, M. N., & Winston, S. M. (2019). Needing to Know For Sure: A CBT-Based Guide to Overcoming Compulsive Checking and Reassurance Seeking . New Harbinger Publications. ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create instead of obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism"…

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Waiting For the Right Time 8:45

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Are You Waiting for the Right Time? It’s time to stop waiting for the perfect time. Feeling 100% ready (or whatever ideal set of conditions you’ve been waiting for) is an illusion that keeps you from taking charge of your life right now. Learn how to recognize if you’re giving your power over to ideal circumstances and how to take control. Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for the right time won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Resources Mentioned In Episode 241: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239 Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234 Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202 Citations/Sources: Leclerc, F., Schmitt, B. H., & Dube, L. (1995). Waiting Time and Decision Making: Is Time like Money? Journal of Consumer Research , 22 (1), 110–110. https://doi.org/10.1086/209439 ‌Osuna, E. E. (1985). The psychological cost of waiting. Journal of Mathematical Psychology, 29 (1), 82–105. https://doi.org/10.1016/0022-2496(85)90020-3 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create instead of obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism"…

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How to Get More Confidence (Instead of Waiting For It) 10:17

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Ever wish you had more confidence? Too many driven perfectionists wait for more confidence before making bold moves, mistaking insecurity for preparation. But waiting is killing your confidence slowly. 'm clearing up all the confusion around getting more confidence so you can stop waiting for it to show up and giving you the exact formula to get more confidence today! Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for more confidence on the sidelines won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Resources Mentioned In Episode 241: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Impeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239 Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234 Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202 Citations/Sources: Bandura, A. (1977). Self-efficacy: Toward a unifying theory of behavioral change. Psychological Review, 84 (2), 191–215. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.84.2.191 Katie Stringer Lucero, & Chen, P. (2020). What Do Reinforcement and Confidence Have to Do with It? A Systematic Pathway Analysis of Knowledge, Competence, Confidence, and Intention to Change. Journal of European CME , 9 (1), 1834759–1834759. https://doi.org/10.1080/21614083.2020.1834759 ‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create instead of obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism"…

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What Happens When Perfectionists STOP WAITING FOR More Information 16:33

לפני 22 weeks16:33

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Lifelong learner but not taking bold action? I used to wait for more time, more confidence, more certainty, more information, more money and more support. Then I’d get MORE of what I was waiting for….and still find excuses to keep waiting. Until one day I quit waiting for more. Find out why perfectionists love to wait for more, precisely how this keeps you stuck and what happens IRL when perfectionists stop waiting for more information. Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for more on the sidelines won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Resources Mentioned In Episode 240: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234 Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202 6 Self-Sabotaging Patterns Perfectionists Unknowingly Nurture Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 215 The Sneaky High Performance Habit Holding You Back Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 140 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create instead of obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism"…

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Impeccable Boundaries - Your Path To Peace + Power 36:47

לפני 23 weeks36:47

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Imagine feeling empowered, calm and grounded. You trust yourself. The incessant judgey voice in your head has been replaced with a witty, encouraging narrator. Your relationships built on truth. You say no to stuff you don’t want to do, without explanation. You take care of yourself FIRST. You've upgraded from exhausted to excited. Want that to be your reality? It starts with Impeccable Boundaries. Listen to learn how to create your own Impeccable Boundaries On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the full episode to hear: - Can impeccable boundaries actually exist in relationships with unconditional love? - Impeccable Boundary vs Ineffective Boundary - how do you actually go about creating impeccable boundaries - Why it's more challenging for a perfectionistic person to have impeccable boundaries. - Perks of impeccable boundaries - How who/what hurts you, can't heal you Resources Mentioned In Episode 239: Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching More You Control, Less Powerful You Feel Perfectionism Optimized Ep. 196 Care-ing vs Carrying Perfectionism Optimized Ep. 202 Everything You Need To Know About Self-Regulation As A Perfectionist Perfectionism Optimized Ep. 194 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create instead of obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism"…

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It's Always Something! 3 Key Areas Perfectionists Must Fix to Stop Overwhelm 15:42

לפני 24 weeks15:42

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Just as you finally get everything under control, life throws you ANOTHER curve ball. Seems like no matter what you do, you never get a moment of peace bc It’s Always Something. Discover exactly how to break down the elusive barriers that perpetually seem to get in the way of perfectionists and equip you with practical tools to let go of the chaos so you can navigate life’s unexpected twists without getting overwhelmed. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the full episode to hear: How where you source your confidence from determines how well you adapt to life's surprises Why resourcing yourself mentally, emotionally + physically enables you to handle unexpected challenges like a pro The secret to stop feeling like everything is always on your shoulders ( this is way better than deep breaths) Resources Mentioned In Episode 238: Neuroplasticity (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 178) Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching Citations/Sources: Green, C. S., & Bavelier, D. (2008). Exercising your brain: A review of human brain plasticity and training-induced learning. Psychology and Aging , 23 (4), 692–701. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0014345 Kummer, K., Mattes, A. & Stahl, J. Do perfectionists show negative, repetitive thoughts facing uncertain situations?. Curr Psychol (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-023-04409-3‌ Levine, S. (2003). Psychological and social aspects of resilience: a synthesis of risks and resources. Dialogues in Clinical Neuroscience , 5 (3), 273–280. https://doi.org/10.31887/dcns.2003.5.3/slevine Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create instead of obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism"…

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Be Proud of Yourself: Training Your Brain to SEE Your Value 14:28

לפני 26 weeks14:28

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Discover why being proud of yourself is a mission critical skill for all perfectionists and how to rewire your brain to see your value. Un-learn the misconceptions currently getting in the way of you being proud of you and how to exit the inadequacy cycle. Thinking I don't have anything to be proud of? I'm giving you 5 reasons that you can be proud of yourself + the tool I use everyday to be proud of myself NO MATTER HAT I have or haven't accomplished. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized TIMESTAMPS: 00:00-Perfectionists + Valuing Yourself Beyond Achievements 01:52-Upgrading From "Being Successful to Be Proud Of You" 03:15-Why being proud is USEFUL SKILL for perfectionists 04:57-Living a life stuck in inadequacy 06:03-Fear of Losing Motivation if Proud Now 07:48-Finding something to be proud of: $3,000,000 challenge 08:31-Attaching productivity to proud aka POISON 09:50-Passive failing vs. active failing 11:17-Feeling proud without eradicating negative emotions 12:56-Shrinking the part of your brain that triggers stress SOURCES REFERENCED In Ep. 237 Fischer, J. (2012). Being Proud and Feeling Proud: Character, Emotion, and the Moral Psychology of Personal Ideals. The Journal of Value Inquiry , 46 (2), 209–222. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10790-012-9337-x Neff, K. D. (2009). The Role of Self-Compassion in Development: A Healthier Way to Relate to Oneself. Human Development , 52 (4), 211–214. https://doi.org/10.1159/000215071 Nepon, T. (2024). Perfectionism, Self-Image Goals and Compassionate Goals in Health and Mental Health: A Longitudinal Analysis - Taryn Nepon, Gordon L. Flett, Paul L. Hewitt, 2024. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/07342829241239997 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create instead of obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism"…

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Confessions of an Approval Seeking Perfectionist: From Insecure to Empowered Oscar Winner 18:20

לפני 29 weeks18:20

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Do compliments make you uncomfy? Tired of constantly achieving and never feeling satisfied? Discover the *real reason* you’re still chasing validation from other people (it has nothing to do with accomplishments or self-esteem) and how to stop relying on external praise + recognition. Perfectionism Optimized client, bravely shares her story of being an Oscar-winning superstar vying for attention, feeling undeserving of praise and constructing her whole life around getting approval (and avoiding rejection). Hear step-by-step how she dropped the fears of not being good enough + being judged by others, let go of needing anyone’s approval and rewired recognition on her own terms. If you want to make sure the Approval Trap never trips you up again, and want proven, science-backed tools to become SO CERTAIN about the value you bring, become RESILIENT + RESOURCEFUL during your most stressful moments and finally feel as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside, you belong inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the Full Episode To Hear: Why Achievements Feel Empty and How to Change That How lies we tell ourselves hold us back from seeing our own value Practical steps to start giving yourself the praise you deserve. Resources Mentioned: Decoding Your Unconscious Motivational Patterns (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 80) Perfectionism Optimized : Patented, proven science-backed tools that help you take charge of your perfectionism and learn to celebrate your achievements the healthy way. Credible Scientific Sources Cited In Ep. 236 Burton, K. D., Lydon, J. E., D'Alessandro, D. U., & Koestner, R. (2006). The differential effects of intrinsic and identified motivation on well-being and performance: Prospective, experimental, and implicit approaches to self-determination theory. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 91(4), 750-762. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.91.4.750 Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2015). Intrinsic Motivation and Self-Determination in Human Behavior. SpringerLink . https://doi.org/10.1007-978-1-4899-2271-7 Nepon, T. (2024). Perfectionism, Self-Image Goals and Compassionate Goals in Health and Mental Health: A Longitudinal Analysis - Taryn Nepon, Gordon L. Flett, Paul L. Hewitt, 2024. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/07342829241239997 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, neuroplasticity + interoception techniques for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create instead of obsolete advice to "overcome your perfectionism"…

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