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#47: When He Chooses Not to do the Work
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תוכן מסופק על ידי Redemptive Living and Redemptive Living Radio. כל תוכן הפודקאסטים כולל פרקים, גרפיקה ותיאורי פודקאסטים מועלים ומסופקים ישירות על ידי Redemptive Living and Redemptive Living Radio או שותף פלטפורמת הפודקאסט שלהם. אם אתה מאמין שמישהו משתמש ביצירה שלך המוגנת בזכויות יוצרים ללא רשותך, אתה יכול לעקוב אחר התהליך המתואר כאן https://he.player.fm/legal.
In this episode we wanted to talk about what to do when he chooses not to do the work. Warning: we get off track a lot. We start with talking about contradictions in the Bible - for instance: Ephesians 4:26 says - Don’t let the sun go down on your anger. However, Psalm 4:4 says - be angry yet don’t sin. Think about it overnight and remain silent. Contradictions. This applies to the betrayal recovery process in that sometimes its hard to know: do I give him grace? Or do I use the tough love approach? We both agree that the "grace based approach" doesn’t work as well as the "tough love approach" when it comes to sexual addiction recovery. This is born out of our story - I initially tried the grace based approach and it did not work. It wasn’t until I dropped the hammer that the floor raised for Jason, he saw I was serious, and he had to make a choice. Of course, it’s important to note that the tough love approach doesn’t always save the marriage, as you will hear about next week on the pod. Here are several of the high points from our talk: 1 - Before dropping the hammer, plead for him to change. 2 - Get Support. 2 - Choose your hard. 3 - Consider the Matthew 18 approach. 4 - Don’t jump to divorce out of the gate - start with boundaries. 5 - Ask yourself these questions: What do I need? What do I need to feel safe? What do you have a right to? How can I protect me? We are so glad YOU are here, thanks for joining us!
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- The episode on Mid-Recovery (#40) can be found here and the episodes on Early-Recovery (#14 and #15) are here and here.
- Applications are OPEN for the next RLW Retreat! Click here to apply!
- Shelley mentions “I Don’t Love You Anymore” by Dr. David Clarke - excellent book that I think every wife should read!
- Interested in a women’s support group? Find out more about the RLW Support Groups here.
- Click here to get on the Empowered Boundaries Wait List - we are about to wrap up the current class and will be back with a new class this Fall.
- Click here to join the wait list for the Worthy of Her Trust Workshop.
- Would love to connect with you on Instagram - @shelley_martinkus.
- We offer 1:1 coaching, couples recovery coaching, support groups, MasterClasses and on-line courses - check out our websites: redemptiveliving.com and rlforwomen.com for the full scoop!
- Click here to subscribe to Shelley’s {almost} monthly letter + announcements. Click here to subscribe to Jason’s list.
- Questions for the Podcast? Email us with the subject line: Podcast.
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Manage episode 340353067 series 3392138
תוכן מסופק על ידי Redemptive Living and Redemptive Living Radio. כל תוכן הפודקאסטים כולל פרקים, גרפיקה ותיאורי פודקאסטים מועלים ומסופקים ישירות על ידי Redemptive Living and Redemptive Living Radio או שותף פלטפורמת הפודקאסט שלהם. אם אתה מאמין שמישהו משתמש ביצירה שלך המוגנת בזכויות יוצרים ללא רשותך, אתה יכול לעקוב אחר התהליך המתואר כאן https://he.player.fm/legal.
In this episode we wanted to talk about what to do when he chooses not to do the work. Warning: we get off track a lot. We start with talking about contradictions in the Bible - for instance: Ephesians 4:26 says - Don’t let the sun go down on your anger. However, Psalm 4:4 says - be angry yet don’t sin. Think about it overnight and remain silent. Contradictions. This applies to the betrayal recovery process in that sometimes its hard to know: do I give him grace? Or do I use the tough love approach? We both agree that the "grace based approach" doesn’t work as well as the "tough love approach" when it comes to sexual addiction recovery. This is born out of our story - I initially tried the grace based approach and it did not work. It wasn’t until I dropped the hammer that the floor raised for Jason, he saw I was serious, and he had to make a choice. Of course, it’s important to note that the tough love approach doesn’t always save the marriage, as you will hear about next week on the pod. Here are several of the high points from our talk: 1 - Before dropping the hammer, plead for him to change. 2 - Get Support. 2 - Choose your hard. 3 - Consider the Matthew 18 approach. 4 - Don’t jump to divorce out of the gate - start with boundaries. 5 - Ask yourself these questions: What do I need? What do I need to feel safe? What do you have a right to? How can I protect me? We are so glad YOU are here, thanks for joining us!
…
continue reading
- The episode on Mid-Recovery (#40) can be found here and the episodes on Early-Recovery (#14 and #15) are here and here.
- Applications are OPEN for the next RLW Retreat! Click here to apply!
- Shelley mentions “I Don’t Love You Anymore” by Dr. David Clarke - excellent book that I think every wife should read!
- Interested in a women’s support group? Find out more about the RLW Support Groups here.
- Click here to get on the Empowered Boundaries Wait List - we are about to wrap up the current class and will be back with a new class this Fall.
- Click here to join the wait list for the Worthy of Her Trust Workshop.
- Would love to connect with you on Instagram - @shelley_martinkus.
- We offer 1:1 coaching, couples recovery coaching, support groups, MasterClasses and on-line courses - check out our websites: redemptiveliving.com and rlforwomen.com for the full scoop!
- Click here to subscribe to Shelley’s {almost} monthly letter + announcements. Click here to subscribe to Jason’s list.
- Questions for the Podcast? Email us with the subject line: Podcast.
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