Ep. 71 - Children's 4 Irreducible Needs

Regulated & Relational

In his book, The Myth of Normal, Dr. Gabor Mate points out that all children have 4 irreducible needs:

• a sense of security
• trust in the world
• interrelationships with others
• connection to your authentic emotions…

And the way that they get these needs met is the availability of an attuned, non-stressed and emotionally reliable caregiver. The more stressed or distracted the caregiver, then the shakier the emotional architecture of the child’s mind will be.

And that’s the crux of it all…how do we set up parents and families to be able to be those attuned, non-stressed and emotionally available caregivers?

Julie and Ginger want to share this message from Dr. Mate and talk about how it aligns with so much of what ATN believes about Attachment being the Antidote, but also about how we have to advocate for what families need in today’s society.

We highly recommend The Myth of Normal by Gabor Mate, MD and Daniel Mate