Chani Barlow: If You Feel You’re Not Enough, Start Here!

Stories of Hope in Hard Times

Chani has had many experiences in her life where she has felt completely worthless and like she isn’t enough. She shares several amazing tips to help combat our inner critic.

Episode Discussion Points

• A story when Chani felt like she didn’t measure up and wasn’t enough
• “I’m a nobody,” feelings
• 6 Tips on how to combat those feelings
• Hack—at the top of Chani’s “To Do” List every day she physically writes out the quote, “Do what you can do, in the best way you know and the Lord will accept of your effort.” —Gordon B. Hinckley
• How we are not perfect, but God can help and heal and inspire hope.

Steps to Battle “I’m Not Enough”

1. Feel the Feelings and sit with them for a minute. It is important to name them and acknowledge them, cry over it, but work through the feelings.
2. Get it out of your system. Journal either on a computer (on an "Icky Page") or a journal. Some people talk it out. Some people pound it out with boxing gloves at the gym or exercise.
3. Connection with Friends, Family or others. You can connect in person (this is best) or talk on the phone. Be real and authentic. It takes a village to healthily get through life. You don’t have to do it alone.
4. Connect with God. God loves us and wants us to do better. Be real and authentic with God too—tell Him the good, the bad a nd the ugly. “He doesn’t need formalities, He just wants to hear from you.”
5. Take the 50 foot perspective. Sometimes you have to step back and get out of your head for just a minute and ask yourself these questions: Is it true? Would everyone else around you agree with that? Are you giving yourself credit or grace for what you have donet? (Don’t just think about what you didn’t do.) Am I measuring myself up against someone else (comparing yourself to a Pinterest picture of someone else.) Compare yourself to yourself, and give yourself grace for your shortcomings.
6. If you feel you need to talk to a professional, then do it! Chani was able to get a lot of emotions out instead of keeping it bottled up. “They help you unravel the mess inside of you."

Get Chani’s FREE “10 Practical Habits to Tame Your Inner Critic,,” pdf download on Chani’s website: chanibarlow.com

Bible Verse

• Story of father bringing a son with a dumb spirit to the Savior begging for help. Jesus tells the man that “all things are possible to him that believeth.” Then the man says, “Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief.” (Mark 9:23-24)
• I might not have perfect belief, but God can help and heal.

Connect

• Website: chanibarlow.com
• Get Chani’s book, Seeking Solace: Finding Hidden Miracles and Peace
• Join Chani and I as we speak at the Enough Already Conference for Christian Women on May 13th in Las Vegas. For more information check it out here.

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Transcription

You can find the transcription of today's episode here: https://www.tamarakanderson.com/podcasts/chani-barlow-if-you-feel-youre-not-enough-start-here