S2 E9. My Subconscious Mistake in Picking Previous Partners (Hoping to Keep My Heart Safe)

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In the past, I was compromising with the partners I chose, because I thought I was a compromise. And I thought over-compromising - if the “pros” in my list were more than the “pros” in their list - would keep my heart safe. But it doesn’t work that way.

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S2 E9. My Subconscious Mistake in Picking Previous Partners (Hoping to Keep My Heart Safe)

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