74: "Dear AVOIDANT Attachment" -If Anxious Attachment Could Speak - 5 Things They’d Say

The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

“I’m not trying to control you… I’m just scared.”

If you’ve ever wished your avoidant partner really understood what’s happening inside your body when they pull away…

This episode is for you

It’s a love letter from your anxious attachment style to the person who feels hard to reach.

And maybe…
You’ll want to share it with them 💌
Not to convince or fix anything - but to finally FEEL SEEN.

What’s inside this episode:

🫂 5 powerful truths the anxious partner wishes they could say (but didn’t have the words for)
💭 “I’m not trying to be clingy... I’m trying to feel SAFE.”
🪫 The real reason anxious people overgive, chase, and people please
🧠 Why their nervous system spirals at even tiny signs of distance
🪞 Why they hide their needs + make themselves SMALL to stay close
💬 What they need when the avoidant partner shuts down or gets overwhelmed
🌊 Why healing together - even with different styles - is possible

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Like….

• Attachment Style QUIZ – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached: 3 MIN QUIZ

• Anxious ArcheTYPE QUIZ – Discover which of the 4 archetypes you are and how you manage your stress and anxiety

• ✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist – Signs you're becoming securely attached

• How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding Anxious Attachment better
00:53 Dear Avoidant Attachment Style... I would love you to know about me (the Anxious Attachment Style))
01:00 01 "I’m not trying to control you. I’m just scared."
03:00 02 "It’s not just about YOU. It’s about my past."
04:09 03 " I don’t WANT to be this way."
04:57 04 "When you shut down... I feel invisible."
06:07 05 "I want love to feel safe... for both of us."

You don’t have to hide how deeply you feel.
Or apologize for how your nervous system responds.
You are NOT “too much.”
You’re just trying to feel safe 🖤

▶️ Press play if you’ve ever thought:
“I wish I could explain my anxiety without sounding crazy.”
“I want them to see the real me... not the panicked version.”
“I’m not broken. I’m just scared.”