From Meltdown to Mastery: The Mom's Mindset Shift for Autism Success

Thriving Moms of Autistics

Hi Moms! One of the many things we have in common are meltdowns. Even the mention of meltdowns likely elicits some physical or emotional response. I get it!

In this episode, we come together in solidarity to explore ways to navigate meltdowns to achieve success in our autism journey.

Find the full transcript for this episode at

https://thrivingmomsofautistics.com/77

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Why is a mindset shift so important for moms when dealing with meltdowns?

When inevitable meltdowns occur, the world around us unravels and emotions take center stage. It gets chaotic and so much is going on.

Part of this is out of our control. So much so, it is difficult to manage what is within our control. But, it is possible!

Many times people confuse meltdowns with tantrums, but there is a big difference. Meltdowns are sensory driven.

When there is a sensory overload and children become frustrated and struggle with communication barriers, it’s like a boiling pot of water that gets away from you quickly.

Our reaction to that is key! When we react with frustration, their behavior exacerbates and worsens because they have little to no control over themselves at that moment.

But meltdowns as scary as they are, are actually opportunities for learning and growing. BUT, we must shift and see them as growth opportunities.

If we stay in a state of terror and anxiety over what our child is experiencing, we cannot help them and the meltdown is prolonged.

So, by shifting our mindset, we can not only navigate meltdowns more effectively but can also help our child thrive. Who is onboard with that!

Long Term Benefits for Autism Moms, Who Shift Their Mindset

There are long term benefits to shifting your mindset in the midst of a meltdown. Now, this is something that takes practice. It’s not just something you start doing consistently over night.

When we are calm and supportive, we teach our child healthy coping skills. Over time, this will carry over and be a tool in their own toolbox. Also, they feel loved and understood.

When they experience meltdowns, they experience shame and their self-esteem takes a hit. So, our reaction builds trust and strengthens our bond with them.

Tips for How Autism Moms Can Shift Their Mindset

• Move from Judgement to Understanding "What's causing this meltdown?" Is it sensory overload? A change in routine? We empathetically respond to our child when we understand.
• Move From "Fixing" to "Supporting." The child is overwhelmed, not broken. Autistic children do not need to be fixed. Create a safe space, rather than fixing the child.
• Meltdowns are temporary. Take a deep breath, and remind yourself this too shall pass. Notice how you feel when it seems like something is never ending.

A shift in mindset helps us stay calm and we become a safe haven for our child. They feel supported. And they develop much needed skills to navigate their emotions in the future.

You are not alone in your journey. I look forward to our time together next week!