013|Choosing Comfort Over Connection is Sabotaging Your Marriage

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Understanding the Elegant Math Behind Modern Machine Learning 1:14:43

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Artificial intelligence is evolving at an unprecedented pace—what does that mean for the future of technology, venture capital, business, and even our understanding of ourselves? Award-winning journalist and writer Anil Ananthaswamy joins us for our latest episode to discuss his latest book Why Machines Learn: The Elegant Math Behind Modern AI . Anil helps us explore the journey and many breakthroughs that have propelled machine learning from simple perceptrons to the sophisticated algorithms shaping today’s AI revolution, powering GPT and other models. The discussion aims to demystify some of the underlying mathematical concepts that power modern machine learning, to help everyone grasp this technology impacting our lives–even if your last math class was in high school. Anil walks us through the power of scaling laws, the shift from training to inference optimization, and the debate among AI’s pioneers about the road to AGI—should we be concerned, or are we still missing key pieces of the puzzle? The conversation also delves into AI’s philosophical implications—could understanding how machines learn help us better understand ourselves? And what challenges remain before AI systems can truly operate with agency? If you enjoy this episode, please subscribe and leave us a review on your favorite podcast platform. Sign up for our newsletter at techsurgepodcast.com for exclusive insights and updates on upcoming TechSurge Live Summits. Links: Read Why Machines Learn, Anil’s latest book on the math behind AI https://www.amazon.com/Why-Machines-Learn-Elegant-Behind/dp/0593185749 Learn more about Anil Ananthaswamy’s work and writing https://anilananthaswamy.com/ Watch Anil Ananthaswamy’s TED Talk on AI and intelligence https://www.ted.com/speakers/anil_ananthaswamy Discover the MIT Knight Science Journalism Fellowship that shaped Anil’s AI research https://ksj.mit.edu/ Understand the Perceptron, the foundation of neural networks https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perceptron Read about the Perceptron Convergence Theorem and its significance https://www.nature.com/articles/323533a0…

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🔥 Want to Be a Better Husband? 🔥 Download the Better Husband Toolkit—a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now!

Are you prioritizing comfort over connection in your marriage? Many men fall into the trap of avoiding conflict to keep the peace, but this avoidance creates distance and erodes intimacy. In today’s episode, I share why choosing comfort over connection is sabotaging your marriage and how to break free from the comfort trap to build a deeper, more fulfilling relationship.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

Why avoiding conflict doesn’t create peace—it creates disconnection.
The role of discomfort in fostering intimacy and connection.
How modern marriages demand new relational skills for lasting intimacy.

Key Takeaways:

Intimacy thrives when we embrace vulnerability and navigate discomfort together.
Relationships naturally go through cycles of harmony, disharmony, and repair. Success depends on how you handle the repair process.
Avoiding conflict (the comfort trap) keeps you stuck and prevents deeper connection.

Practical Action Steps:

Daily Check-Ins: Spend 5 minutes each day asking your wife, “How are you feeling? What do you need?” Practice active listening.
Repair Rituals: After disagreements, reflect on your part and take accountability. Use phrases like, “I see how I hurt you. How can I make it right?”
Cherishing Challenge: Commit to three small gestures of love each week, like writing a note or planning a surprise.

Reflection Questions:

When was the last time you avoided conflict for the sake of comfort?
How can you lean into discomfort this week to foster connection in your marriage?

Connect with Angelo:
Schedule a FREE 30-min Consultation: https://calendly.com/angelosantiago/free-consultation
Website: https://www.angelosantiago.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Better.Husband
Email: angelo@angelosantiago.com

Download the Better Husband Toolkit: http://www.BetterHusbandToolkit.com

💬 Send Angelo a text

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013|Choosing Comfort Over Connection is Sabotaging Your Marriage

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What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

Why avoiding conflict doesn’t create peace—it creates disconnection.
The role of discomfort in fostering intimacy and connection.
How modern marriages demand new relational skills for lasting intimacy.

Key Takeaways:

Intimacy thrives when we embrace vulnerability and navigate discomfort together.
Relationships naturally go through cycles of harmony, disharmony, and repair. Success depends on how you handle the repair process.
Avoiding conflict (the comfort trap) keeps you stuck and prevents deeper connection.

Practical Action Steps:

Daily Check-Ins: Spend 5 minutes each day asking your wife, “How are you feeling? What do you need?” Practice active listening.
Repair Rituals: After disagreements, reflect on your part and take accountability. Use phrases like, “I see how I hurt you. How can I make it right?”
Cherishing Challenge: Commit to three small gestures of love each week, like writing a note or planning a surprise.

Reflection Questions:

When was the last time you avoided conflict for the sake of comfort?
How can you lean into discomfort this week to foster connection in your marriage?

Download the Better Husband Toolkit: http://www.BetterHusbandToolkit.com

💬 Send Angelo a text

Support the show

69 פרקים

#Society #Relationship #Self-Improvement #Angelo Santiago #Men #Marriage #Husband #Family #Podcasting Education

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018|Why Your Arguments Never Get Resolved—And What to Do Instead 17:23

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🔥 Want to Be a Better Husband? 🔥 Download the Better Husband Toolkit —a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now! - Do you and your wife keep having the same arguments over and over? Do your conflicts feel like a frustrating loop, leaving you both unheard and disconnected? That’s because most couples fall into losing strategies —default behaviors that keep conflicts alive instead of resolving them. The worst part? These patterns feel right in the moment, but they actually push your wife further away. In today’s episode, I’ll help you identify the five losing strategies , recognize when they’re happening, and give you the tools to break free—so you can stop fighting in circles and start actually solving problems in your marriage. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✅ Why certain conflicts never seem to get resolved ✅ The five losing strategies that are sabotaging your marriage ✅ How these behaviors stem from your Adaptive Child ✅ What to do instead to create real connection ✅ A step-by-step way to change your response in the moment Key Takeaways: 💡 Your instincts in conflict might be making things worse. 💡 Defensiveness, control, and shutting down push your wife further away. 💡 You can retrain yourself to respond differently and transform your marriage. Practical Action Steps: 1️⃣ Recognize your go-to losing strategy – Which one do you default to? 2️⃣ Pause in the moment – Take a breath before reacting. 3️⃣ Shift your focus – Is your response helping or hurting? 4️⃣ Try a new approach – Validate instead of defending, ask instead of controlling. 5️⃣ Practice daily – Small shifts over time lead to major relationship changes . Reflection Questions: ❓ What’s your biggest trigger that leads to conflict? ❓ Which losing strategy do you find yourself using the most? ❓ How would your marriage change if you responded differently next time? Connect with Angelo: 📅 Schedule a FREE 30-min Consultation → Book Here 🌐 Website → angelosantiago.com 📺 YouTube → Better Husband Channel 📩 Email → angelo@angelosantiago.com Download the Better Husband Toolkit at BetterHusbandToolkit.com 💬 Send Angelo a text Support the show…

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017|Defensiveness Is Ruining Your Marriage—Here’s How to Fix It 14:06

לפני 11 ימים14:06

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🔥 Want to Be a Better Husband? 🔥 Download the Better Husband Toolkit —a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now! - Ever feel like every conversation with your wife turns into a debate? Like no matter what you say, you’re under attack—and your first instinct is to defend yourself? Defensiveness is one of the biggest communication killers in marriage. It shuts down connection, escalates conflict, and pushes your wife further away. The good news? You can learn to respond differently—and completely change the dynamic of your relationship . In today’s episode, I’ll show you exactly how to break free from defensiveness so you can communicate with confidence, listen without reacting, and build a stronger connection with your wife . What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✅ Why defensiveness is a natural reaction—and why it’s keeping you stuck. ✅ The hidden triggers that make men feel attacked (even when their wife isn’t trying to). ✅ A 4-step strategy to respond without shutting down or fighting back. ✅ How to handle conflict in a way that makes your wife feel heard and respected. ✅ What to do when it’s your wife who gets defensive. Key Takeaways: 💡 Defensiveness might feel like self-protection, but it actually creates more conflict. 💡 Your reaction is your responsibility —you don’t have to defend yourself every time. 💡 Slowing down, validating, and staying present leads to better outcomes. Practical Action Steps: 1️⃣ Recognize the Pattern – Catch yourself in the moment before you react defensively. 2️⃣ Pause & Breathe – Give yourself space to respond instead of react . 3️⃣ Validate, Don’t Explain – Acknowledge your wife’s feelings without needing to prove your point. 4️⃣ Stay Present & Curious – Shift from self-defense to real connection . 5️⃣ Practice This Daily – The more you do this, the easier it becomes. Reflection Questions: ❓ When was the last time you got defensive in a conversation with your wife? ❓ What triggers make you feel like you need to defend yourself? ❓ How would your marriage change if you responded with curiosity instead of defensiveness ? Connect with Angelo: 📅 Schedule a FREE 30-min Consultation → Book Here 🌐 Website → angelosantiago.com 📺 YouTube → Better Husband Channel 📩 Email → angelo@angelosantiago.com Download the Better Husband Toolkit at BetterHusbandToolkit.com 💬 Send Angelo a text Support the show…

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016|How 10 Minutes a Day Can Transform Your Marriage 10:57

לפני 18 ימים10:57

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🔥 Want to Be a Better Husband? 🔥 Download the Better Husband Toolkit —a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now! - Most couples struggle to find quality time together. You live under the same roof, but between work, kids, and distractions, you barely connect. The good news? Just 10 minutes a day can completely transform your marriage. In today’s episode, I break down why distraction-free time is the easiest and most powerful way to reconnect with your wife—and why so many men hesitate to do it. You’ll walk away with a simple, actionable plan to start seeing results in your relationship right away. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✅ Why most couples struggle to find time for real connection. ✅ The shocking amount of time we spend on screens instead of our marriage. ✅ How just 10 minutes a day can create intimacy, trust, and deeper connection. ✅ What to do if sitting in silence with your wife feels awkward at first. Key Takeaways: 💡 Time isn’t the issue—prioritization is. 💡 Small, daily moments of connection make the biggest impact over time. 💡 You don’t need the perfect words; simply being present is enough. Practical Action Steps: 1️⃣ Commit to 10 Minutes a Day – Schedule it like a meeting and follow through. 2️⃣ Make It Distraction-Free – No phones, no TV, no multitasking. 3️⃣ Find What Works for You – Talk, walk, meditate, or just sit together. 4️⃣ Let It Grow Naturally – These moments will lead to deeper connection over time. 5️⃣ Communicate with Your Wife – Let her know this is important to you. Reflection Questions: ❓ How much time do you actually spend in meaningful conversation with your wife? ❓ What distractions are keeping you from deeper connection? ❓ What’s one small step you can take today to start this habit? Connect with Angelo: 📅 Schedule a FREE 30-min Consultation → Book Here 🌐 Website → angelosantiago.com 📺 YouTube → Better Husband Channel 📩 Email → angelo@angelosantiago.com Download the Better Husband Toolkit at BetterHusbandToolkit.com 💬 Send Angelo a text Support the show…

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015|The Secret to Handling Your Wife’s Emotions Without Feeling Overwhelmed 13:08

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🔥 Want to Be a Better Husband? 🔥 Download the Better Husband Toolkit —a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now! - Do you ever feel lost when your wife is upset? Do you freeze up, try to fix the problem, or just hope it passes? You're not alone. Many men struggle with emotions—both their own and their wife’s. But here’s the truth: the key to handling your wife’s emotions is first learning to understand your own. In today’s episode, I break down why emotions feel overwhelming, how we’ve been conditioned to suppress them, and simple steps to build emotional awareness so you can show up for your wife in a way that strengthens your marriage. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why many men struggle with emotions and how it impacts their marriage. The 7 core emotions you need to recognize to better connect with your wife. Why emotional numbing leads to distance in relationships. Simple, actionable steps to get comfortable with emotions without feeling overwhelmed. Key Takeaways: Avoiding emotions doesn’t make them go away—it creates disconnection. Understanding and naming your emotions helps you handle your wife’s emotions with confidence. Small, intentional steps toward emotional awareness will transform your relationship. Practical Action Steps: 1️⃣ Recognize the 7 Core Emotions – Anger, joy, pain, fear, guilt, shame, and love. Start identifying what you’re feeling throughout the day. 2️⃣ Daily Emotional Check-Ins – Ask yourself, What am I feeling right now? This builds awareness and emotional strength. 3️⃣ Journaling – Write down your emotions and patterns. This helps you notice what’s really going on beneath the surface. 4️⃣ Seek Support – Join a men’s group, talk to a coach, or work with a therapist to develop emotional intelligence. 5️⃣ Communicate with Your Wife – Let her know this is new for you and that you’re working on being more present for her. Reflection Questions: How do you typically react when your wife is emotional? What’s one small step you can take this week to build emotional awareness? How can you start practicing emotional presence in your marriage today? Connect with Angelo: 📅 Schedule a FREE 30-min Consultation → Book Here 🌐 Website → angelosantiago.com 📺 YouTube → Better Husband Channel 📩 Email → angelo@angelosantiago.com 🎧 Listen now and start showing up for your wife in a way that strengthens your marriage! 💬 Send Angelo a text Support the show…

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014|How to Use Valentine’s Day to Build a Stronger, More Connected Marriage 10:49

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🔥 Want to Be a Better Husband? 🔥 Download the Better Husband Toolkit —a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now! - Many men see Valentine’s Day as a commercial scam, an obligation filled with overpriced flowers and chocolates. But what if you could use it to strengthen your marriage instead of just checking a box? In today’s episode, I share how to reframe Valentine’s Day from a meaningless Hallmark holiday into a powerful reminder to cherish your wife—not just on February 14th, but all year long. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why ignoring Valentine’s Day might be hurting your marriage (even if your wife says she doesn’t care). The surprising history of Valentine’s Day—how it started and why it became so commercialized. The science behind expressing love and why it’s essential for a thriving marriage. How to use Valentine’s Day as a tool to strengthen your relationship instead of an obligation. Key Takeaways: Small, consistent acts of love create trust, security, and intimacy in your marriage. Ignoring opportunities to cherish your wife—even if you dislike the holiday—can cause disconnection. Valentine’s Day can be like Thanksgiving for gratitude —a reminder to prioritize your marriage, not just a one-day event. Practical Action Steps: 1️⃣ Identify Her Love Language – Ask your wife what makes her feel most loved. If she’s unsure, take a quiz together. 2️⃣ Make a Plan for February 14th – Even something simple, like a handwritten note or her favorite meal, can make her feel cherished. 3️⃣ Schedule Weekly Acts of Love – Set reminders to consistently show affection through words, touch, gifts, time, or acts of service. Reflection Questions: Have you ever ignored Valentine’s Day? How did it make your wife feel? What’s one small way you can show your wife she matters this week? How can you carry this mindset beyond February 14th into the rest of your marriage? Connect with Angelo: 📅 Schedule a FREE 30-min Consultation → Book Here 🌐 Website → angelosantiago.com 📺 YouTube → Better Husband Channel 📩 Email → angelo@angelosantiago.com 🎧 Listen now and start making your wife feel cherished—on Valentine’s Day and beyond! 💬 Send Angelo a text Support the show…

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013|Choosing Comfort Over Connection is Sabotaging Your Marriage 11:05

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🔥 Want to Be a Better Husband? 🔥 Download the Better Husband Toolkit —a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now! - Are you prioritizing comfort over connection in your marriage? Many men fall into the trap of avoiding conflict to keep the peace, but this avoidance creates distance and erodes intimacy. In today’s episode, I share why choosing comfort over connection is sabotaging your marriage and how to break free from the comfort trap to build a deeper, more fulfilling relationship. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why avoiding conflict doesn’t create peace—it creates disconnection. The role of discomfort in fostering intimacy and connection. How modern marriages demand new relational skills for lasting intimacy. Key Takeaways: Intimacy thrives when we embrace vulnerability and navigate discomfort together. Relationships naturally go through cycles of harmony, disharmony, and repair. Success depends on how you handle the repair process. Avoiding conflict (the comfort trap) keeps you stuck and prevents deeper connection. Practical Action Steps: Daily Check-Ins: Spend 5 minutes each day asking your wife, “How are you feeling? What do you need?” Practice active listening. Repair Rituals: After disagreements, reflect on your part and take accountability. Use phrases like, “I see how I hurt you. How can I make it right?” Cherishing Challenge: Commit to three small gestures of love each week, like writing a note or planning a surprise. Reflection Questions: When was the last time you avoided conflict for the sake of comfort? How can you lean into discomfort this week to foster connection in your marriage? Connect with Angelo: Schedule a FREE 30-min Consultation: https://calendly.com/angelosantiago/free-consultation Website: https://www.angelosantiago.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Better.Husband Email: angelo@angelosantiago.com Download the Better Husband Toolkit: http://www.BetterHusbandToolkit.com 💬 Send Angelo a text Support the show…

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012|Navigating Sexual Frustration in Marriage—And How to Fix It 17:10

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🔥 Want to Be a Better Husband? 🔥 Download the Better Husband Toolkit —a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now! - Do you and your wife seem to be on different pages when it comes to sex? Whether you’re the one wanting more intimacy or the one pulling back, differing sex drives can create frustration, hurt, and even resentment in a marriage. But it doesn’t have to stay that way. In this episode of Better Husband, we dive into one of the most common—and sensitive—issues in marriage: sexual desire differences. I’ll unpack why this happens, how it impacts your relationship, and what you can do to reconnect with your wife emotionally, physically, and sexually. By the end of this episode, you’ll know how to: Understand the root causes of differing sex drives. Rebuild emotional intimacy as the foundation for a better connection. Shift your focus from pressure to presence with actionable steps. Communicate with curiosity and empathy to deepen trust. Explore ways to reignite desire and intimacy through fun and playfulness. I’ll also share a personal story about a client who felt stuck in his marriage and how we used the different categories of intimacy—emotional, relational, physical, and more—to rebuild connection and trust. Practical exercises you’ll learn include: Practicing empathy by listening without defending. Establishing a reconnection ritual to nurture your relationship. Reflecting on your role and committing to positive change. Engaging in non-sexual physical intimacy to foster closeness. Sexual frustration doesn’t have to be a roadblock in your marriage. With understanding, intention, and a focus on emotional connection, you can bridge the gap and create a fulfilling relationship for both of you. Connect with Angelo: Schedule a FREE 30-min Consultation: https://calendly.com/angelosantiago/free-consultation Website: https://www.angelosantiago.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Better.Husband Email: angelo@angelosantiago.com Download the Better Husband Toolkit: http://www.BetterHusbandToolkit.com 💬 Send Angelo a text Support the show…

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011|The Secret to Ending Arguments in Your Marriage: Yield, Don’t Defend 13:00

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🔥 Want to Be a Better Husband? 🔥 Download the Better Husband Toolkit —a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now! - Arguments in marriage can feel like a never-ending cycle, but there’s a way to break free. In this episode of Better Husband, I uncover the secret to ending arguments in your marriage: learning how to yield instead of defend. When you make your wife’s experience the priority instead of rushing to explain yourself, you can create deeper trust and connection. I’ll share relatable examples—including one from one of my favorite movies, The Dark Knight Rises —to highlight how defensiveness erodes relationships and what it looks like to respond with empathy and generosity. Plus, I’ll teach you the exact steps to take when your partner is upset, including a powerful question to ask that can instantly de-escalate tension. By the end, you’ll know how to: Respond to your wife with compassion instead of defensiveness. Listen deeply to her experience and reflect it back. Ask empathetic questions that prioritize her needs. Build trust and connection, one small moment at a time. This episode is packed with practical advice to help you show up as the husband you know you can be. - Connect with Angelo: Website: https://www.angelosantiago.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Better.Husband Email: angelo@angelosantiago.com Download the Better Husband Toolkit: http://www.BetterHusbandToolkit.com Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction: Why Defensiveness Doesn’t Work 01:30 Personal Story: Time and Presence in Marriage 04:18 The Dark Knight Rises Example: Listening vs. Defending 07:45 Practical Framework: Yield, Don’t Defend 11:22 Practical Exercises to Improve Listening and Empathy 13:45 Final Thoughts: How Yielding Builds Connection 💬 Send Angelo a text Support the show…

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010|Rebuild Trust in Your Marriage: 5 Essential Steps After Breaking It 12:25

לפני 9 weeks12:25

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🔥 Want to Be a Better Husband? 🔥 Download the Better Husband Toolkit —a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now! - Repairing your marriage after breaking trust can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. In this episode of Better Husband, I walk you through five essential steps to repair the damage and rebuild trust with your wife. From taking ownership of your mistakes to meaningful apologies backed by action, these steps are designed to help you create a stronger, more connected marriage. I also share a personal story about how I let my wife down by failing to prioritize date nights—and what I did to turn it around. Whether you’re navigating a major breach of trust or smaller day-to-day frustrations, this episode has practical advice you can start using today. By the end, you’ll know how to: Own your mistakes without defensiveness. Truly listen to your wife’s perspective. Apologize in a way that rebuilds trust. Follow through on your commitments. Give your wife the time and space she needs to heal. Mistakes don’t have to define your marriage. What matters is how you respond. - Connect with Angelo: Website: https://www.angelosantiago.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Better.Husband Email: angelo@angelosantiago.com Text: https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2405322/open_sms - Download the Better Husband Toolkit: www.BetterHusbandToolkit.com 00:00 Introduction: Embracing Mistakes in Marriage 01:41 Personal Story: The Missed Date Nights 02:53 Step-by-Step Guide to Rebuilding Trust 07:33 Practical Exercises for Better Listening and Responsibility 09:09 Conclusion: Consistency and Commitment 💬 Send Angelo a text Support the show…

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009|Create the Marriage You Want in 2025: 8 Powerful Questions for Husbands 10:53

לפני 10 weeks10:53

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🔥 Want to Be a Better Husband? 🔥 Download the Better Husband Toolkit —a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now! - Download the Better Husband Questions PDF at http://www.betterhusbandquestions.com Are you ready to create the marriage you and your wife truly want in 2025? In this episode of Better Husband , I’ll guide you through eight powerful questions to help you set a clear vision for your relationship. These questions are split into two categories: Four for you to reflect on individually to identify what you want, how you can show up better, and how to align with your wife’s needs. Four to answer together as a couple, to create a shared vision for your future. Visioning is a proactive act of intention, a way to strengthen your marriage by identifying what’s working, what needs attention, and what you both want to build together. I’ll share a personal story from a trip to Belize that sparked transformative conversations in my own marriage, and explain why creating a vision for your marriage can be a game-changer. This episode is packed with actionable insights and practical steps to help you design the marriage you and your wife deserve in 2025. Don’t wait for things to improve—take the reins and make it happen. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why visioning is critical to building a stronger marriage. The eight key questions to guide your reflection and conversations with your wife. How to align on shared goals and dreams to create a meaningful partnership. Why being intentional in your marriage leads to greater intimacy and connection. Take the first step—download the Better Husband Questions PDF to start your journey: http://www.betterhusbandquestions.com . Connect with Angelo: Website: https://www.angelosantiago.com YouTube: Better Husband Channel Email: angelo@angelosantiago.com - 00:00 Introduction: The Power of Vision in Marriage 01:12 Personal Story: A Wake-Up Call in Belize 02:16 Self-Reflection Questions for a Better Marriage 04:26 Collaborative Questions for Couples 06:45 The Importance of Visioning in Marriage 07:47 Conclusion: Take Action for a Better 2025 💬 Send Angelo a text Support the show…

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008|What Every Husband Should Know About Forgiveness and Trust with Dr. Bruce Chalmer 38:35

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🔥 Want to Be a Better Husband? 🔥 Download the Better Husband Toolkit —a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now! - In this episode of Better Husband, I am joined by psychologist Dr. Bruce Chalmer. We explore the critical issues in marriage when trust has been broken. Dr. Chalmer shares insights from his book 'Betrayal and Forgiveness,' discusses common misconceptions about trust, and offers practical steps for maintaining strong, trusting relationships. - Connect with Angelo Website: https://www.angelosantiago.com/ Email: angelo@angelosantiago.com Connect with Dr. Bruce Chalmer Website: https://brucechalmer.com/ - 00:00 Introduction: Dr. Bruce Chalmer 01:00 The Importance of Trust in Marriage 02:38 Common Misconceptions About Rebuilding Trust 05:10 Stages of Rebuilding Trust 06:42 Addressing Betrayal and Infidelity 11:24 Practical Steps to Rebuild Trust 15:37 External Influences and Stigma 19:07 Actionable Steps for Better Husbands 29:02 Maintaining Strong Trust in Relationships 34:10 Final Thoughts and Advice 💬 Send Angelo a text Support the show…

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007|How to Avoid Conflict in Your Marriage By Asking This One Question First 17:59

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🔥 Want to Be a Better Husband? 🔥 Download the Better Husband Toolkit —a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now! - When conflict arises in your marriage, the words you choose can either help or hurt your relationship. In this episode of Better Husband, I explore the crucial question you must ask yourself during conflicts: Is what I'm about to say going to help or hurt my marriage? I'll share a simple four-step framework, CALM (Clarify, Acknowledge, Look, Manage), designed to help you handle conflicts in a way that strengthens your relationship. Using real-life examples, including my own experiences, I'll demonstrate how to communicate clearly, empathize with your partner, focus on what’s best for the marriage, and manage outcomes without resentment. - Connect with Angelo Website: https://www.angelosantiago.com/ Email: angelo@angelosantiago.com - 00:00 Introduction: The Key Question During Conflict 01:22 A Quick Story About Marital Conflict 02:52 The CALM Method 03:10 Step 1: Clarify What You Want 05:59 Step 2: Acknowledge Your Wife's Wants 07:05 Step 3: Look at What's Best for the Marriage 08:25 Step 4: Manage the Outcome and Let Go of Control 10:01 Personal Story: Navigating Christmas Conflict 13:28 Practical Exercise: Applying the CALM Method 15:54 Conclusion: Building Connection Through CALM 💬 Send Angelo a text Support the show…

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006|Why Men Struggle to Seek Help in Marriage with Dr. Dean Sunseri 39:53

לפני 13 weeks39:53

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🔥 Want to Be a Better Husband? 🔥 Download the Better Husband Toolkit —a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now! - In this episode of Better Husband, I'm joined by Dr. Dean Sunseri, a licensed professional counselor and coach with over 30 years of experience helping individuals and couples achieve lasting personal growth. We delve into the importance of mentorship for men as husbands and share personal stories about the impact of men's groups on our lives. Dr. Dean explains the significance of emotional intelligence, managing our hearts, and the transformative process of healing from past wounds. We also discuss practical steps to improve communication in marriage and introduce tools for men to better connect emotionally within their relationships. - Connect with Angelo Website: https://www.angelosantiago.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Better.Husband Email: angelo@angelosantiago.com Connect with Dr. Dean Website: https://www.ihaveavoice.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@IHaveAVoice1212 - 00:00 Introduction to Better Husband 00:07 Meet Dr. Dean Sonseri 00:30 The Importance of Mentorship for Men 01:32 Why Men Struggle to Seek Help in Marriage 03:20 The Role of Courage in Emotional Growth 04:55 Personal Stories of Heartbreak and Healing 06:58 The Impact of Men's Groups 12:14 Dean's Journey and Emotional Intelligence 19:04 A Roadmap to the Soul 21:29 Understanding Coping Behaviors 29:08 Encouraging Men to Seek Help 34:41 Q&A: Improving Communication in Marriage 37:49 Conclusion and Resources 💬 Send Angelo a text Support the show…

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005|Why Gratitude Could Save Your Marriage 19:45

לפני 14 weeks19:45

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🔥 Want to Be a Better Husband? 🔥 Download the Better Husband Toolkit —a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now! - What if I told you that gratitude could be the missing ingredient in your marriage that changes everything? In this episode we'll explore how practicing gratitude can strengthen and possibly save your marriage. I'll discuss common mistakes men make, actionable steps to enhance your relationship, and highlight research-backed benefits of gratitude for mental health and relationship satisfaction. Make sure to check this out if you are looking for practical exercises to start implementing gratitude in your daily life and how to share this practice with your partner for a happier, more connected marriage. - Connect with Angelo Website: https://www.angelosantiago.com/ Email: angelo@angelosantiago.com - 00:00 Introduction to Gratitude in Marriage 01:21 Personal Journey with Gratitude 03:40 Three Takeaways From This Episode 04:09 The Power of Gratitude: Research Insights 06:07 Shifting Focus in Marriage 07:49 Encouraging Generosity Through Gratitude 09:44 Gratitude as an Antidote to Entitlement 10:43 Key Point: Can You Receive Gratitude? 12:25 Practical Gratitude Exercises 15:59 My Gratitudes and Final Thoughts 💬 Send Angelo a text Support the show…

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004|How Your Attachment Style is Impacting Your Marriage with Bev Mitelman 50:28

לפני 15 weeks50:28

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🔥 Want to Be a Better Husband? 🔥 Download the Better Husband Toolkit —a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now! - In this episode, I am joined by Bev Mitelman, founder of Securely Loved, and we dive into the world of attachment styles. We discuss the significance of attachment styles, their origins, and how understanding them can help you become a better husband. Bev provides insights into secure and insecure attachment styles, emotional regulation, and how these affect relationships. Learn practical steps to understand yourself and your partner better. - Connect with Angelo Website: https://www.angelosantiago.com YouTube: https://youtube.com/@better.husband Email: angelo@angelosantiago.com Connect with Bev Website: https://securelyloved.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SecurelyLoved - 00:00 Introduction to Better Husband 01:15 Understanding Attachment Styles 02:05 The Origins of Attachment Theory 03:03 Impact of Early Childhood on Attachment 05:58 Attachment Styles in Romantic Relationships 10:27 Exploring Secure Attachment 13:18 Insecure Attachment Styles: An Overview 18:03 Anxious Preoccupied Attachment 23:47 Dismissive Avoidant Attachment 25:17 Navigating Avoidant Attachment in Relationships 26:35 Understanding Dismissive Avoidant Attachment 27:41 Challenges Faced by Dismissive Avoidants 28:59 Emotional Struggles and Coping Mechanisms 30:13 Personal Experiences with Avoidant Attachment 32:57 Bridging the Gap Between Different Attachment Styles 36:23 Practical Advice for Couples 40:17 Relationship Scenario and Suggestions 47:30 Final Thoughts and Resources 💬 Send Angelo a text Support the show…

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