Do Something Series - Episode 4: After the Setback - Steps to Rebuild and Reconnect

Compounding Change with Shannon Davis

Sometimes life drops you right on your back. A job ends. A marriage falls apart. You’re left holding the broken pieces of what was, trying to figure out what’s next. In that fog of transition, one of the hardest things to rebuild is your own self-trust—your ability to believe in your voice, your values, and your own inner compass. It can feel like you're starting over with a map you’re no longer sure how to read.

In this Do Something episode of Compounding Change, sisters Shannon Davis and Shannon Stoliker go beyond the stories of what happened and dive into the deeper layers of what it means to reconnect with yourself after a setback. From career disruptions to personal upheavals, they explore the subtle ways we lose track of who we are, and the small, powerful steps we can take to find our way back.

There is a gap between who we are and who we think we should be, and it can grow quietly over time, often fueled by people-pleasing or fear of conflict. But awareness is the first tool. Jenna outlines the difference between core values and acquired values, encouraging listeners to distinguish what’s truly theirs from what they’ve absorbed. Shannon adds personal insight and a few funny stories to remind us that growth isn’t always graceful. But it is always worth it.

Whether you're rebuilding after a divorce, job loss, or a season of personal disconnection, this episode is a thoughtful, honest guide to starting again, not by doing something dramatic, but by doing something real. One step, one decision, one brave “no” or vulnerable “yes” at a time.

Key Takeaways:

-Setbacks often shake our identity and self-trust more than we realize

-Rebuilding starts with small, consistent actions—not big breakthroughs

-Self-betrayal can happen quietly when we avoid conflict or over-accommodate

-Journaling helps clarify truth when thoughts feel tangled

-Core values are different from acquired values—we can unlearn what’s not ours

-People-pleasing takes many forms and drains self-confidence

-Saying “no” without over-explaining is a powerful practice

-Living in alignment requires awareness, not perfection

-Tools like values assessments can guide self-reflection

-Self-trust isn’t something you find, it’s something you practice

Chapters

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00:59 Introduction

04:40 Rebuilding Self-Trust

10:25 Journalling as a Step Forward

13:25 Discovering Your Core Values

18:49 Understanding Self-Worth

22:33 Discovering Your Values

28:09 Action Steps/Do Something Challenge

Helpful Links:

Finding Your Values Guidebook: https://jennastoliker.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/Finding-Your-Values.pdf

Jenna Stoliker: https://jennastoliker.com/

Shannon Davis: https://www.daviscompoundingchange.com/

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