93: Forgiving the Unforgivable: The Courage to Let Go with Brenda Adelman

Manders Mindset

In this episode of Mander's Mindset, I sit down with Brenda Adelman, also known as the Queen of Forgiveness. She shares her incredibly moving story of navigating through unimaginable tragedy and how she found the strength to forgive. Brenda is an award-winning actor and the creator of the one-woman show My Brooklyn Hamlet, which tells the story of her father's tragic act—killing her mother and marrying her aunt. In this conversation, Brenda takes us through her three-step forgiveness process, a framework she developed to help others heal from deep emotional wounds. If you've ever struggled with forgiveness, this episode is packed with insights that could change how you approach your own healing.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The importance of moving out of denial and into acceptance.
• How to release deep-rooted anger in a healthy way.
• Why forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing someone but freeing yourself from the burden of resentment.
• Tools for setting healthy boundaries and embracing self-love.
• Brenda's personal journey of forgiving her father, and how you can apply her lessons to your own life.

Episode Highlights:

[2:34] – Brenda shares the details of her complex childhood, her relationship with her parents, and the tragic events that changed her life.
[7:28] – How Brenda found out about her mother’s murder and her emotional journey afterward.
[25:23] – The turning point where Brenda realized that hating her father was like hating a part of herself.
[29:25] – Brenda’s three-step forgiveness process and how she began to release her pain.
[41:17] – The role of storytelling in healing and how Brenda transformed her life experience into a powerful message of hope.
[45:33] – Brenda explains how forgiveness doesn’t always require closure from the other person, especially if they have passed away.

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To Connect with Brenda & Her Resources:

• Connect with Brenda on Facebook
• Brenda's Facebook Group: Unforgettable Speakers Society
• Visit her website: Forgiveness and Freedom
• Buy Brenda’s book: My Father Killed My Mother and Married My Aunt: Forgiving the Unforgivable: Forgive and Be Free: A Pathway to Personal Freedom

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פרקים

1. Manders Mindset Podcast With Brenda Adelman (00:00:00)

2. Navigating Narcissism and Self-Love (00:07:39)

3. Journey to Forgiveness (00:20:12)

4. Embracing Emotions and Releasing Anger (00:30:25)

5. Healing and Forgiveness Journey Development (00:36:19)

6. Healing Through Forgiveness and Boundaries (00:41:38)