145. You aren’t alone mama, I go through that too

Simple on Purpose | Intentional Living and Parenting

I knew I had to share this episode as I heard more and more coaching clients tell me how much they appreciated hearing me say that I don't always enjoy my kids, that I was a mom martyr, that pregnancy was hard. I keep hearing how much it matters to hear that they aren't alone in these struggles of motherhood. In this episode I am talking about: Feeling like you aren't 'normal' Welcoming the resistance you might feel to the idea that you aren't alone What I have seen in coaching groups of women and moms The struggles I have in my own home, maybe you have them too Sibling rivalry Having compassion for ourselves allows us to have it for others Being honest about our struggles Allowing people in, and offering support to others Stop by the Facebook community group or send me a message through Instagram. View this post on Instagram A post shared by kristen bell (@kristenanniebell) The list of links you might like/mentioned in this post: Permission to grieve (having a parent with dementia) Dear friend, you are not alone My C-Section and the feelings I was ashamed to admit I had The Baby That Always Cried (Our Story With Esophagitis) A Mom No Matter What (For the mom who had a hard labour and delivery) God's grace in difficult parenting Marriage posts When they tell me I'm lucky to have him 12 ways to heal and strengthen your marriage Mom martyr (making motherhood harder than it needs to be) When I realized I didn't enjoy my kids The Sibling Rivalry podcast episode that changed my whole mindset around parenting Full Episode Transcript (unedited) 0:06 Hey friends, it's Shawna, your nerdy girlfriend and life coach from simple purpose.ca. Welcome to the salon purpose podcast. If you are a regular listener, you may have noticed I did not have an episode out last week. And I just thank you for your graciousness in me taking that break. 0:22 If you are in the simple on purpose Facebook community group, you know why that I took that break, I had spent the weekend before at my parents house. And we were decluttering, this room in that house that was just stuffed full of boxes, and scrapbooking supplies and pictures and writings. And this isn't unusual for my childhood home to have boxes of stuff, particularly a room of boxes of stuff. And this was just a process that we as a family had been planning on doing. Since my mother went into care in December with dementia, we knew that we wanted to start addressing these areas in the house that were built up that we could just kind of sort through it, see what's there, start honoring what's there and just makes use of the space a little bit better. 1:08 So I went with my siblings and my dad and we went through things box by box item by item, it was a lot of sorting, I would definitely put an emphasis on the ability to sort is key to good decluttering. But it was also hard. It was also healing, it was hard it brought us together, I think. And you know, that's just something that I felt like I had a lot in my head a lot in my heart. And I just wanted to take last week off and give myself the space to unpack that on my own. Without adding more to my plate. 1:42 You might also know that I work a couple of days a week with the local health authority. And then I have coaching in school on top of that, that I also do. So my weeks do feel very full. I do feel like my simple slow life has definitely been up ended a little bit this year for a lot of very purposeful things that I want to be working on. 2:05 Anyways, if you want to message me privately, if you are wondering about decluttering if you're wondering also about having a parent with dementia, and you have specific questions on that, I'm thinking about maybe doing an episode on that if people have questions.