23 Dad Secrets for Raising Strong Daughters | Redefining Masculinity with Oscar from Daughtered

The American Masculinity Podcast

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What happens when two podcasters swap seats to talk fatherhood and masculinity? In this crossover between American Masculinity and Daughtered, Tim Wienecke and Oscar explore what it really means to raise daughters while rethinking the old scripts of being a man.

This candid conversation blends lived experience with clinical insight. From the fading role of intergenerational fatherhood to the dangers of early sports specialization, Tim and Oscar dive into the challenges modern dads face while raising resilient, confident girls. You’ll hear why presence matters more than perfection, why chores and boredom build stronger kids, and how fathers can model the balance of strength and vulnerability their daughters need to see.

Whether you’re a dad striving to show up better, a clinician supporting fathers, or simply curious about the evolving landscape of masculinity, this episode offers perspective, practical wisdom, and encouragement.

Tune in for a refreshing look at fatherhood—and stay for the powerful reminders about what our kids reflect back to us.

00:00 Presence, Patience, and Parenting Struggles
02:00 Why Raising Daughters Needs a Different Conversation
04:00 The Three Things Every Dad Needs: Strength, Mindfulness, Presence
07:00 Quality vs. Quantity of Time With Kids
12:00 The Generational Shift in Fatherhood
16:00 Masculinity Then and Now
18:00 Kids Learn More From What You Show Than What You Say
20:00 Garbage Time vs. Quality Time With Children
23:00 “Babysitting” Your Own Kids and Household Roles
25:00 Chores, Happiness, and Over-Involved Parents
29:00 Nuclear Families, Patience, and Boredom
32:00 Masculine vs. Feminine Roles in Parenting
38:00 Modeling Complete Parenthood for Kids
42:00 Incongruence, Safety, and How Kids Make Sense of Parents
47:00 Accountability, Boundaries, and Emotions
50:00 Redefining “Be a Man” and Healthy Masculinity Today
55:00 Conditional vs. Unconditional Love
58:00 Veteran Suicide, Service, and Masculine Purpose
01:02:00 Capability, Confidence, and Failing Forward
01:07:00 Sports Burnout and Specialization Too Young
01:10:00 Personal Questions: Rules of Masculinity Learned Young
01:11:00 When Masculinity Hurts You
01:14:00 When Masculinity Empowers You
01:18:00 Partnership, Roles, and Long-Term Marriage
01:21:00 Fact Check and Closing

The American Masculinity Podcast™ is hosted by Timothy Wienecke — licensed psychotherapist, Air Force veteran, and men’s advocate.
Real conversations about masculinity, mental health, growth, and how men can show up better — as partners, leaders, and friends.
We focus on grounded tools, not yelling or clichés. If you have questions or want a tool for something you're wrestling with, leave a comment or send a message — your feedback shapes what we build next.
Note: While this doesn’t replace therapy, it might help you notice something worth exploring.