Fiftysomething Love - speed coaching Mary Beth about her dating life.
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Welcome to a very special episode - I'm speed coaching Mary Beth about her dating life. We can't get into it all in the time frame we have, but it's a little taste of getting to what might help change.
1:15 She's a divorced mom of a young teenager and now has more time to focus on her own desires. Stopped dating a few years ago intentionally to work on her own things. Wasn't a priority, didn't like who she was meeting. It sounds and feels like a lot of work. She lacked some skills.
4:15 It's a different experience than when we were younger - we carry scars and are more protective, always looking for red flags. Could be good, could be too much examining. And sometimes not enough time is the truth.
5:40 Toxicity can be everywhere and nowhere at the same time, the apps can be toxic but I met my husband on Craigslist which was a sewer. I didn't carry the toxicity with me.
8:50 Do you meet anywhere in person? She doesn't go many places but she's outgoing and talks to people in public. Does she know how to flirt? Does she recognize someone interested? A friend told her she's misses opportunities.
11:20 Are you really interested in meeting anyone right now? Let's not be contradictory. Open to a partner, doesn't need a dad for the kid, doesn't need someone to pay her bills. Not searching for it.
13:20 She knows her value and is willing to stay single. But she's guarded around men. No vulnerability. She hasn't been able to count on a man. She doesn't want to get hurt.
14:40 Vulnerability is part of it! You have to be willing to put yourself out there.
17:40 In coaching, I teach how to minimize the risk.
18:00 Taking time to get to know someone. You CAN get hurt, that's the downside of love. Finding a person worth taking the risk may be difficult but it's also the cart before the horse. You need time.
20:21 There's someone she has a bit of a crush on someone.
23:00 Diane gives this assignment to her. Flirt in person with three guys, including the one she has a crush on. A guy needs a clear runway.
28:00 50 Places to Meet People Over 50 - where to meet them in person.
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