2: What I Wish I Knew About Self-Worth in My 20s

School of Self-Worth

In today’s episode, we travel back in time with Nicole to her 20s and explore the evolution of her self-worth as she grew and evolved as a 20-something. Starting as a newly graduated 21-year-old teaching English abroad in a foreign country, to coming home to pursue journalism, and finally, as a young journalist slowly finding her voice and worth.

Nicole covers…

• Dedicating all her energy to her career in her 20s (5:39)
• Experiencing success on the outside while dealing with crippling self-doubt on the inside (7:08)
• The intense but pivotal moment in her journalism career that made her realize some jobs are not worth any amount of money (8:00)
• The different struggles she had with her self-worth in her 20s, in relation to her career, body, and relationships (11:22)
• What Nicole wishes she could tell her 20-something-year-old self (14:40)
• The importance of choice when it comes to living a joyful life (19:56)

Quotes From This Episode:

“In School of Self-Worth, I consider myself to be both a teacher and a mentor in this space, and also a perpetual student because my experience of self-worth and my journey of self-worth has shown me that it is a long progression. It is one that evolves and it continues to evolve as you grow and you shift and you change.”
“I remember at that time being so clear that this job is not worth any amount of money, and I would say that's probably the first time in my life I started to have a distinction around money and worth and value.”

“Because I want you all to understand, really the big theme that was going on for my life is that I never really felt successful. And I also not only didn't feel successful, I didn't feel like I was in charge of my success. I didn't feel like I was driving my success in general.”
“If you are thinking you are stuck in a career, or stuck in a direction, or the way you're supposed to live your life, know that you have so many gifts that will get you to the next stage, whatever that stage is when it shows up in perfect timing.”
“Back then, I wish I knew that partnership was not an indicator of my self-worth, that I was worthy, that I was loved, and that I could have whoever I wanted. I feel like that was the thing I wish I had known the most, that I could have whoever I wanted, and it wasn't that it was a privilege for me to be selected by them and in fact, the opposite that it was a privilege for those people to be chosen with me and that we together could create partnership that was powerful and expansive.”

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