No one is going to rescue you: Finding Strength Within

Mentally STRONG Academy: Embrace the Journey

In this heartfelt episode, Dr. B delves into the profound journey of coping with intense grief and trauma. Dr. B shares personal experiences and challenges the notion of external rescues, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and self-love in the healing process.

Key Points:

1. The Illusion of External Rescue:
   • Reflecting on societal influences, Dr. B discusses the pervasive idea that someone or something should rescue us from pain.
   • Examining the impact of movies and cultural narratives that often portray a hero rescuing individuals from difficult situations.
2. The Spiritual Conflict:
   • Dr. B candidly explores the spiritual conflict that arises when faced with profound grief and trauma.
   • Discussing the struggle with the belief that a higher power, in this case, God, should intervene and alleviate the pain.
3. Separating Trauma and Grief:
   • Sharing personal experiences of losing a child and the dual challenge of coping with both grief and trauma.
   • Highlighting the need to differentiate between grief, a natural emotional response, and trauma, which requires a deliberate effort to let go.
4. No One Can Rescue You:
   • Acknowledging the support of the community and the importance of accepting and appreciating external help.
   • Emphasizing the core message: true healing comes from within, and no one else can rescue an individual from their pain.
5. Tips for Self-Rescue:
   • Encouraging listeners to engage in introspection by writing down their stories and becoming comfortable with their narratives.
   • Offering three essential tips for self-rescue: knowing oneself, liking oneself, and ultimately growing to love oneself.
6. The Five Selves Series:
   • Directing listeners to explore Dr. B's series on the "Five Selves," which provides a comprehensive guide to self-care, self-regulation, spiritual well-being, continual self-improvement, and the importance of physical movement.
7. Closing Thoughts:
   • Expressing gratitude for the support system while recognizing its limitations in fully rescuing from pain.
   • Encouraging viewers to embark on their personal journey of self-discovery and healing.