46. How to Honor Grief with Grace for Yourself or Someone you Care About with Mandy Capehart

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Grieving affects all of us at some point in life. Whether it's grieving the death of a loved one or pet, the ending of a marriage or relationship, or even a life shift like a job change, move or child going off to college. These are all grief events and can be incredibly emotional and hard to process.
Grief is confusing, complex, multi-faceted, erratic and is different for everyone. So how do we work through grief when we feel so overwhelmed? What are some tools we can use to allow ourselves to honor what was, but also give us the ability to function in the moment and eventually move forward without staying stuck?
Are we supposed to let go? Hang on? Remember? Be sad? What if we feel guilty? Have regret? Are resentful or unbearably sad? Are we allowed to be happy again? Is that a betrayal? What should we share with others? Why is it so confusing and overwhelming? How can you feel ok one moment and the next so devastated?
How can we ultimately honor our loss, accept what happened, have compassion for ourselves and learn to embrace life fully as it is now, after the grief event?
In this interview with grief expert, Mandy Capehart, we break down all the elements of how to process grief. From navigating it for yourself to showing up for someone you care deeply about.
Some of the topics covered in the interview are:

• What is grief and where does it show up in our lives?
• How to honor that everyone has their own way of grieving
• Why our needs in grief may be constantly changing and how to communicate and honor them
• How to understand what alleviates pain within our grief helps us grow
• Why being uncomfortable is a part of the healing process
• How being present in our bodies can help work through grief
• Realizing that grief is part of our story, but does not define who we are
• What to do if the how and why of the event are blocking you in the grieving process
• How we can idealize situations and people in grief
• Embracing that grief is evidence that love exists
• How to know that you can still honor the meaningfulness, it’s just transformed
• The surprising therapy that has been life changing for grief processing for Mandy
• How to evaluate if a memory of someone is keeping you from the life you want to live
• Why it can be good to have the uncomfortable conversations when a friend is going through grief

How we approach grief can totally change what we experience and how we manage to move through it. The reality is, there is no real roadmap, other than the one you make for yourself. But when you connect to what you are feeling and honor your needs we open up the road to healing.
You can hear more about Mandy's grief work on her podcast: Restorative Grief. She also co-hosts The Uncomfortable Grace Podcast, where space is held for growth amid the messy middle-parts of life.
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